I’m at a point in my life where I want a serious and stable relationship. I’ve been dating jokers all my life and now, all my friends have settled down yet I’m still on the streets. I’ve had to make a lot of lifestyle changes so that I can meet the right man. However, it has been worth it. One of the biggest changes I had to make was reducing the number of times I partied. I used to be a party animal but nowadays I prefer to stay at home and only leave the house when it’s necessary.
When my friend invited me to her baby shower, I thought it would be a good chance to meet a serious guy. My friend had also promised me that she would hook me up with someone so I made sure that I looked my best and stayed open-minded.
Just as I thought, there were so many eligible bachelors at the party. I was having such a good time that I forgot that my friend had promised to introduce me to someone. Once everything settled down, we got some time to catch up and she reminded me about the guy she wanted to introduce me to.
“I want you to meet someone.” Zara, the mum-to-be, said to me.
“Has he arrived?” I asked.
“Not yet, but he’s on his way.”
“I’ve already met another guy.”
“This guy is the one. You two will get along perfectly.”
As we were talking, a black Prado rolled into the venue and Zara instantly perked up.
“Here he is.” She said,
A tall man got out of the car, straightened his suit then made his way into the area where we were seated. After greeting his friends, he came towards us.
“Congrats. You look so good.” He said while hugging Zara then glanced in my direction.
“This is my friend, Olive.”
“It’s nice to finally meet you.” He said. “I’m Zack.”
We talked for a while and I got acquainted with Zack. He seemed like a great guy but I wasn’t too sure about him. I didn’t want to date a guy who partied all the time and Zack had an active party life. That was the only issue I had with him but it was my biggest dealbreaker. I even considered dating one of the other guys I had met. However, Zack managed to convince me to give him a chance by the end of the event.
“How did it go?” Zara asked the following day.
“It was good. Zack and I got along so well. I think I like him.”
“I’m so happy to hear that. I hope he’s the one for you. He’s a really good guy.”
“He is. Can I ask you something? Do you know if he partied last night? He asked me to go out with him but I refused and when I asked him, he said that he didn’t go out.”
“I don’t know but I can find out. What’s the problem?” Zara asked.
“I just don’t want a guy who partied a lot. You know what I went through with my ex.”
“Okay. I’ll ask around.”
After asking, Zara confirmed that Zack didn’t go out and that was all I needed to hear. She also assured me that Zack wasn’t a partyholic and only went out occasionally. I believed that he fit my preferences and I was ready to have a relationship with him. He felt the same way and we began dating.
For the most part of the relationship, we talked on the phone since we lived in different cities and met on some weekends. Regardless, I thought that it was a great relationship and that I would end up getting married to him one day.
We couldn’t meet regularly on weekends since Zack was quite a social guy. He would go out during the weekend but he always had a reason. He was either attending a friend’s event or watching a football game with his friends. I was okay with it since it was a social thing but I would have preferred if he didn’t party at all.
However, I wasn’t aware of just how much Zack partied. It was only after we had been dating for several months that I learnt the truth. I was tired of waiting for weeks at times to meet him so I decided to take a month’s leave from work and move to his place as I looked for another job where he lived.
He was more than happy to accommodate me and help me look for another job. The first day I got to his place, he left me in the house and didn’t come back until 3 am. He didn’t give any explanation but it was obvious that he partied the whole night. I didn’t want to start arguing on the first day so I bit my tongue.
Zack partied every day for the rest of the week. Finally, I confronted him about it and he dismissed my concerns.
“I told you I have many friends and we’re always meeting.”
“I didn’t know you met every day.”
“It’s not a big deal.” He said.
I didn’t stay long at his place since Zack wasn’t willing to reduce how much he partied even though he knew how I felt about it. He also didn’t bother to make time for us and prioritized partying with his friends. We barely spent any time together which only made me resent him more since I had taken time from my work to stay with him and was even willing to move closer to him to make the relationship work.
It was heartbreaking since I was hopeful that Zack was the one I would settle down with. However, I’m happy I saw the red flags and got out of the relationship early enough. Based on my past relationship with someone who partied every night, I knew that relationship wasn’t going anywhere. That’s why I wouldn’t date someone who partied a lot.
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