Family secrets are hard to come to terms with when they are finally let out. When a father has been reasonably perfect, making you people feel special and the only family he has, you would believe him. But then one day, you realize that he has two families, and you were the second family. This leaves you with so many questions. This is the exact thing that a user by the name @WhyUfikelate posted on Twitter.
Here is the tweet – the responses are also interesting.
For the longest time we suspected my Dad had a second family, when he died we discovered that we were the second family @WhyUfikelate
Finding out that you are the second family while all along you thought you were the only family could be very shocking. It may leave you dealing with a lot of issues, to which a user asked the narrator to check if they were okay.
After you finish reading out loud what you wrote, ask yourself if you’re ok @porshetique
The user by the name @hamidukingu responded in a way that gave a unique perspective. According to him, the family man kept the two families away and unknown to each other because he cared enough not to hurt them. An act that he termed as respect.
Respect at the top, he never meant to hurt any of 2 families, that’s respect @hamidukingu
Everyone had a unique perspective on this man who managed to keep each of his two families unknown to each other. This Twitter user saw him as a legend worth celebrating. I failed to understand how this user found the dad a hero. Could it have been because he kept the two families unknown to each therefore no drama, or was it because of the aspect of polygamy that some men find heroic?
I die in laughter, but the message and lesson of life is succinct and hope you continue to Celebrate the Legend of who your Dad/ Father was… Strength to Mummy dearest @BamboThindwa
Another user looked at the whole ordeal from the perspective of what would come after the death of such a man. The people left behind would be the ones to deal with his mess
That’s what I hate about these men, they do this and then die leaving a whole mess. @Fisokuhle_mabuz
One user responded by giving his story. Apparently, he has half brothers and sisters and he is not sure who they are. He probably heard about them but never really got to know them. His parents died decades ago and to date, he still is not sure whether to go looking for them or not.
I have half brothers and/or sisters from my dad but don’t know who they are. My parents died 22 years ago but I’m ambivalent about whether I actually want to track the half-siblings down and meet them. @LesterJHolloway
However, as everybody was in the business of analyzing the father here, another user wondered how this could be possible in this day and age. According to a user by the name @KR3EP76, this era has technology that makes it difficult to live a double life without somebody finding out the truth.
Haha.. man, shit is wild. How do you get away with it in this day & age. With all the technology. @KR3EP76
This also raises the question of how the two families remained a secret from the other for all those years. Without any of them getting any hint of another family existing out there. Clearly, according to this user, the man had mastered the art of making each family feel special.
Your dad knew how to make y’all feel special ne… @lesegomashile_
This Twitter user found all these to be too much to process.
He was hell-bent on taking all of that with him to his grave. That’s actually a lot to process. @Itz_Chuckbarz
Though the narrator seemed shocked at this realization and never mentioned the mother’s specific reaction, a user by the name of @Sako_za responded by stating that the mother might have known about it.
Mom probably knew about it, a man just can’t be that careful. @SamoAfrika
Alorato_ferr responded to the tweet by detailing how they found out about other siblings unknown to them.
Some of us found out about siblings after his death…a whole grown-up person or rather persons @lorato_ferreira
About the question of if the mother knew about the second family, a user came to tell their story. This Twitter user found out that the dad had another child after his death. On telling the mum about this secret, the mother already knew about it. She went ahead to tell them of even another child.
Lol they always know..went to my Moms after finding out this child my late dad had, she’s in her early 20’s..thought it was gon surprise her,did she not surprise by saying “awazinto wena you have a sister who was born in 1971 while I was pregnant with your brother @Somnandi81
Two replies to this tweet unmasked how people found out about their dad’s other children. One thing to note is that these children were born at the same time. Meaning that when the wife was expectant, another woman somewhere was expectant too.
My dad was a pro at that so much I kinda have a twin but not from my mom @NOFUKSGIVEN001
Another reply showed a man who had families in different countries. This Twitter user said that the friend found out about another family in Portugal, and two others in South Africa who were her age.
A friend of mine found out she was one of 4. She knew of the ex wife in Portugal and older children but to find out he had 2 other families in SA the same age as hers … @Bjorn_say
After 40 years of thinking that you are the only family, finding out that your husband has another family with grown children could lead to a serious shock. A user by the name @mo_sexxi wrote a comment on how a woman in such a situation almost died after finding out the truth.
I have seen such, the mother almost died when she got to know her husband has another family with grown-up kids , marriage of 40 years @mo_sexx
Yes , his daughter was my neighbour of 3years, married with kids before she got to know she has grown up half-sisters and brothers, the mother is now in UK with her son to save her from getting depressed or murdering their father out of anger. @mo_sexx
Apart from looking at the situation from the technological point of view, where it is almost impossible to lead double lives because of technology, this user chose a financial perspective. He wondered how possible it was to support two families without the family realizing the financial strain or discrepancies.
But how does this happen? How can he have afforded a whole second family behind your backs? @JustineLimLaw
While a number of individuals viewed his act as heroic, a user by the name @Uskawyy found him to be a coward. She stated that families left behind usually deal with the problems that these men created.
The way some men pretend, lie, betray, and lead double lives, then leave their families to deal with it after their demise is something I cannot comprehend. A coward in life and death!! @Uwaskyy
At the end of it all, a user had only one thing to say, “fear men.”
People have different perspectives on situations. As could be seen from these replies, while others found the family man heroic, others found his actions cowardly. However, it would have been interesting to know how he managed to keep two families secret from each other.
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