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They Decided To Wait Before Having Kids After Getting Married But She Bowed To External Pressure To Get Pregnant. Here Are Some Of The Responses To The Husband’s Anger

The man was using condoms then the wife said she would use contraceptives but she stopped using them. Now they have twins that they were not financially ready for

Hazel Jelagat by Hazel Jelagat
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A man went on social media to air his frustrations after his wife went behind his back and got pregnant without telling him.

According to the details provided on Twitter, he and his wife had planned to wait for two years before having children. The wait was for the purpose of financial planning since children come with responsibilities. Close family members and the church pressured the wife into breaking their plan.

Here is the tweet. Some of the responses were also very interesting.

His wife really let him down. How should he handle it and move on? pic.twitter.com/naxup8ttbX

— Naija (@Naija_PR) November 11, 2022

Here is what happened.

From https://twitter.com/Naija_PR/status/1591137675394027520?t=DHNMxWyHY5mkjiIQMvQCRA&s=19
From https://twitter.com/Naija_PR/status/1591137675394027520?t=DHNMxWyHY5mkjiIQMvQCRA&s=19
From https://twitter.com/Naija_PR/status/1591137675394027520?t=DHNMxWyHY5mkjiIQMvQCRA&s=19
From https://twitter.com/Naija_PR/status/1591137675394027520?t=DHNMxWyHY5mkjiIQMvQCRA&s=19

One Twitter user replied by looking at the whole issue from the perspective of submission. This insinuated that had the wife been submissive, then this could not have happened.

From https://twitter.com/omambalab/status/1591523485012168707

Another response called for the husband to make a decision that may look very ridiculous in African society. Following this decision would ensure that the husband does not bear the responsibility he had not planned for.

From https://twitter.com/AlabaOginni/status/1591329133388337154

As expected, someone had to come up with steps that would not involve retaliation or expression of anger. As for @1Laad, forgiveness seems to be the way forward.

Much as people wanted to see the whole situation from the perspective that the husband should take responsibility, this Twitter user saw the wife to have been in the wrong.

From https://twitter.com/AgboolaBukolaS1/status/1591186447176208384

The issue seems to have revolved around the financial responsibility that comes with having children. To which, @Reeejoiceee states that before getting married one ought to have figured out how they will provide for the family.

Reply from https://twitter.com/Reeejoiceee/status/1591172982659055623

This Twitter user came to say that they totally understood the husband’s pain. If she made plans with her significant other to wait and he sabotaged the plan, a separation may be the next thing that followed.

From https://twitter.com/FromAerin/status/1591844379089833985

The couple had gotten twins, and most people were for the idea that they should be happy for the bundles of joy and work on their issues. However, a mother of twins came and gave a perspective on what it takes to raise twins.

Much as forgiveness seems to be the one way to move forward in this marriage, @Ifeade_Lu states that it was the responsibility of the man to have stood up and stated their plan to every person in their circle. Since the husband kept quiet about the whole issue, then he should forgive her.

Reply from https://twitter.com/Ifeade_Lu/status/1591438956805103620

According to @Booyoh_, the wife should have kept her side of the agreement. This user stated that the marriage was hers, and therefore allowing third parties was wrong.

From https://twitter.com/Booyoh_/status/1591193326254174208

Since the husband felt betrayed and seem to have lost his trust, moving forward the husband may need to fully forgive the betrayal, as per Anwuli’s opinion.

One response came with finality. From the details of the post, this Twitter saw no good intention from the man, stating that he appeared bitter. According to her, the husband should just walk out if he was tired.

From https://twitter.com/MOTUNBeautyBlis/status/1591160676390940672

From the tweet, raising the twins seemed to have overwhelmed the wife and she wanted to quit and focus on the children. This Twitter user is against this move.

From https://twitter.com/blvck_Witch/status/1591429918977843202

As everyone seems to acknowledge the pressure as the source of this decision, this response seems to see the wife as the problem.

From https://twitter.com/lollypeezle/status/1591383313016553472

The responses came with many perspectives, including the view of the wife as the offender. However, @spryVoice, states that marriage is more than what appears on paper and that the wife is the one who bears the pressure from everyone.

From https://twitter.com/SpryVoice/status/1591645598633295872

Another Twitter user came to validate the husband’s feelings. Stating that his frustrations were valid. Though the frustrations were valid, the husband ought to be focusing on a way out.

From https://twitter.com/theglowstitches/status/1591309963611496449

Marriage is a complex relationship especially when the extended family gets involved. A simple plan may fail to be successful due to pressure from these people. However, the responses from this thread have given various unique perspectives on the whole situation.

If it was a woman people would have said that the husband is sabotaging her future deliberately and that what he did was very wrong. But as we have seen the husband did not step up to tell people that they had decided to wait to have children and so he let his wife face all the pressure from both sides of the family. We all know that pressure from African families about getting children and how it takes a toll on women. What is your opinion?

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