Many of us have used social media as a spy tool. Whether it’s to stalk an ex, check what your partner is up to or verify if your potential bae is legit, social media is the go-to place to find all the information you need about someone. This makes dating in the age of social media both a blessing and a curse. It’s a blessing because it’s so easy to catch a cheating partner and it’s a curse because it’s so easy for relationships to fail due to pressure or cheating.
Hence, I don’t look at my partner’s social media accounts unless it’s absolutely necessary. For starters, I’m not the type to be nosy or insecure about my relationship. Secondly, I don’t want to find something that I wasn’t ready for.
I’ve had the luck of dating people who didn’t make me doubt their loyalty so I didn’t have to watch their moves all the time. However, my last relationship made me do things that I never thought I would.
Rob was a wolf in sheep’s clothing. I believed he was a good guy with good intentions but he was the furthest from good.
“I would never cheat on you.” He swore repeatedly throughout the relationship.
“I know.” I would reply since I had never been cheated on before.
However, Rob made me feel insecure and I doubted his loyalty from time to time. He was obsessed with social media. Every conversation we had eventually became about Instagram. He would show me pictures of other girls and tell me how pretty they were.
For sure, they were pretty but I didn’t expect the man I was with to be thirsting over Instagram models. It made me feel like I wasn’t attractive enough to him.
He was particularly interested in a certain girl.
“Do you know her?” He asked with a huge smile on his face.
“No,” I said after taking a look at the picture.
“She’s an influencer.”
“I don’t know her.”
At first, I assumed it was the usual thing he did but he kept showing the same girl. He would add little details about her like how she was once his neighbour and how she dates celebrities.
I didn’t pay much attention to him during these rants because I didn’t want to feel worse than I already did. However, he never stopped talking about her which raised my suspicions. I had never checked anybody’s Instagram activities, not even my close friends, but I checked hers.
I checked everything, including her highlights, but found nothing connecting her to Rob. At least I knew that Rob wasn’t cheating on me with her but I still wanted to know why she was so special and why Rob liked her so much.
I watched her stories every now and then. Indeed, she lived the high life and didn’t seem like the type that would date a guy like Rob. With that information, I was confident Rob had no chance with her.
He still talked about her endlessly but to me, it sounded like delusional rambling.
“Guess what? Diana liked a comment I left on one of her photos.” He said excitedly.
“Why are you so obsessed with this girl? I get that she’s beautiful but so am I. Why aren’t you this excited when you’re with me.”
He didn’t answer me. He just kept scrolling through his phone and smiling like he won the lottery.
“I’m going to DM her.” He said.
I didn’t try to talk him out of it since I knew she wouldn’t see his message and even if she did, she probably wouldn’t reply to him.
It seems I underestimated Rob’s flirting game. Just a few days later, he broke the news that his Instagram crush had responded to him.
Though I still didn’t think anything would happen between them, I had to intervene before things got out of hand.
“You know this is cheating,” I said.
“What?” He answered, laughing.
“Talking to other people is considered cheating.”
“Don’t be dramatic. I’m just reconnecting with an old friend.”
I let it go and trusted Rob’s word. I let him do whatever he wanted. He even invited her to our apartment’s pool and didn’t tell me about it. He only came to brag later and show me pictures of how “hot” Diana was.
My laid-back nature may have been the main reason that things went that far. Most people would have put a stop to Rob’s behaviour as soon as he started commenting on her pictures.
At that point, it was too late. There was nothing I could say or do to make him stop since he thought it was okay. I knew it was only a matter of time before he cheated on me with her so I had to come up with a plan to catch him in the act.
Rob started changing his attitude towards me which was an indication that he might have been cheating on me. He didn’t want to sleep with me anymore and he barely talked to me.
I kept looking for clues that he was cheating on me with Diana but I couldn’t get access to his phone. I could only rely on her Instagram stories.
Thankfully, she was an influencer and she documented everything she did. I noticed she was at all the places that Rob frequented. She was at the same clubs and restaurants that we used to go to. However, it wasn’t enough to confirm that Rob was cheating on me.
Finally, she posted a video of her at an event and Rob was dancing with her. It still hit me hard even though I had known that he had been cheating on me for a while. I was more hurt that he had taken her to the event and not me despite me telling him I wanted to go.
After that, it was obvious that our relationship was broken and there was no way of fixing it. I texted him that same night and told him that things were over between us. He wasn’t very heartbroken about it at that time but once the excitement of being with an influencer wore off, he came asking for us to get back together. However, that ship had sailed off.
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