Social media was once like a big family not very long ago. Everyone knew each other and even if they didn’t, people were more willing to help each other out. It’s interesting to see how things have changed in such a short period. Nowadays, it’s all about the drama and who has the hottest tea. There are few people who are still helpful on social media today. The majority just want to see others fail.
I can attest to this because I’ve been a victim of people using social media to spoil someone’s life. I was still naive to the ways of the internet and thought that everyone who followed me and liked my pictures was my friend. The more people liked my posts, the more I posted. At first, I just posted general stuff like my outfits and travel.
“Your social media is really growing.” My best friend, Anne, said.
“Thanks.”
“Have you ever thought of being a content creator?” She added.
“No. Which kind of content would do well?”
“How about relationship content? You’re always talking about your man. Why don’t you start making relationship content together?”
“You know, that’s not a bad idea. I’ll think about it.”
Charles, the guy I was dating at the time, wasn’t a fan of the idea at all. I thought he would warm up to it with time but every time I asked, the answer was always the same – no.
I didn’t feel too bad about it since I was making other kinds of content but the thought loomed in the back of my mind. Relationship content was very lucrative at the time and I wondered whether we could be the next Instagram couple.
Charles resisted the idea for months. He never changed his mind and I grew frustrated.
“Why don’t you want to be on social media?” I asked.
“I’m a private person. I don’t want my life online.”
“What secret do you have? You’re just an ordinary guy.”
“I just don’t want to be online. What if I’m the president in future and these embarrassing videos come out?” He asked.
“Who cares? We all have pasts.” I answered, still trying to convince him to give it a try.
“No. It’s not my thing.”
“What if I blur your face?”
“I said I didn’t want to be online. What part of that don’t you understand?”
Since he was adamant about not being on social media, I let it go. We didn’t have any major challenges in our relationship apart from the usual disagreements. Charles was very unproblematic which I loved about him. I never worried about other women and he made an effort to make the relationship work. It seemed like we would be together forever.
During my usual social media marathon, I came across a trend that peaked my interest. Girls were posting pictures of the men they were dating and asking other social media users if they knew anything about the guy, mainly if he was dating someone else.
I found the responses funny and though some women found out that their men were indeed cheating on them, other users were still making light of the situation.
“Have you seen this trend of people posting their partner on social media and askin lg if anyone else is dating the person?” I asked Anne.
“What? No.” She said in astonishment.
“Let me show you. It’s so funny.” I responded as I showed her my phone.
She saw one of the posts and immediately broke into laughter.
“Oh my God!! Whoever came up with this trend is a genius.”
“Should I do it with Charles?”
“He might not be happy about it. Didn’t he say he didn’t want to be on social media?”
“I’ll delete it after a day. I just want to know if he has any skeletons in his closet.”
“Why would you go looking for something when your relationship is going great?”
“I just need to be sure. I find it suspicious that he doesn’t like being on social media. He’s a young guy like us. Why wouldn’t he want to be on social media?”
“I think it will end badly.”
“The worst case is I find out something bad about him.”
“Don’t say I didn’t warn you.”
After going through more posts, there was nothing that was going to change my mind. Some of the women were in a similar situation as I was where their men claimed they didn’t want to be on social media because they were extremely private yet they just didn’t want to be caught cheating.
I was determined to find out the truth about Charles so I went through with my plan. I put his picture on my social media accounts with a caption reading:
“This is Charles, my man. If anyone else is claiming him, let me know.”
Most of the responses were positive with some complimenting his looks and others saying “finally”. By the end of the day, no one had exposed him which made me happy. I decided to leave it up for a bit longer to give people more time to respond.
In the evening, Charles called me in a rage.
“I thought I told you I don’t want to be on social media.”
“Relax, it’s just one post and I’m deleting it now.”
“Do you know how this makes me look?”
“It’s not a big deal. I just wanted to confirm that you weren’t cheating on me.”
“So, you can’t trust my words? How will this relationship work if you trust others more than me?”
“I trust you,” I said, trying to calm him down.
“Well, you went behind my back and did something I don’t like. I don’t think I can trust you.”
“What do you mean?”
“I’m coming so we can talk in person.”
Charles was still angry when he got home. I had never seen him that angry and I knew something was going to happen.
“I can’t be with you if I can’t trust you.”
“I’m sorry.”
“No, you’ve done something that I can’t forgive.”
After that, he packed my things and asked me to go. I tried to talk him out of his decision but once he had decided something, it was hard to change his mind. I left reluctantly hoping that he would miss me and call me back but he didn’t.
My calls went unanswered and he blueticked my messages. Eventually, I accepted that things were over and moved on with my life. However, I still can’t believe to this day that someone broke up with me because of a social media post.
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