Phone sex is an increasingly popular way to spice things up and engage in virtual sex for couples kept apart by distance. It allows individuals to explore their sexuality and connect with their partners in different, potentially exciting ways. The simplest definition of phone sex is a phone-based conversation between consenting adults who want to stimulate and be stimulated. Phone sex can be a fun and safe way to express your sexuality, and with a little imagination and communication, it can be just as satisfying as physical in-person intimacy. Here are some tips for having phone sex if you’re feeling adventurous.
Benefits of phone sex
- Fosters intimacy across distance
- Has fewer sexual risks
- Encourages sexual communication between partners
- Increases sexual satisfaction among people in monogamous relationships
- Allows people with difficulties forming sexual relationships with others dip their toes
Tips for having great phone sex
Phone sex can be daunting for people new to this form of sexual expression. The thought of vocalizing intimate desires and fantasies can be justifiably nerve-wracking. Here are some tips that can help you approach it with more confidence and make the experience slightly less awkward.
Relax
Find a way to relax before the call. Do whatever it is you usually do, to calm yourself down. Burn some incense, do some breathing exercises, lie in a steamy bubble bath listening to your favourite playlist. Find what works for you.
Dress the part and set the mood
Setting the mood and getting into it can amplify your enjoyment of the experience. Slip into some sexy underwear, turn down the lights in your room or change to some warm bulbs or candles, set some mood music. Adjusting your surroundings accordingly can get you into the right mindset for phone sex. This one is just for you even if your partner will not see you.
Speak naturally
It can be tempting to channel your inner pornstar or affect whatever voice you’ve seen people use on TV, resist the impulse. You don’t need to alter your voice to have good phone sex. Speak naturally unless you guys are roleplaying, in which case, do you.
Speak and listen
It can be difficult to know where to start. A good place to start is sharing your fantasies and imaginary scenarios that turn you on. If they’re into it, you can go down that road. If it feels like they’re not, you can throw the ball in their court and have them share their fantasy. The key is to listen to your partner and be open-minded enough to try out new things. You are under no obligation to do everything your partner wants, but you should listen and pivot things in a direction that works for you. It’s like jazz, just listen to each other and make it up as you go.
Heavy breathing and moaning
Yes. Yes. Yes. Be vocal and try not to hold yourself back because of insecurities or fear. Phone sex is an auditory adventure so moaning and heavy breathing will make it even hotter.
Touch yourself
Basically, phone sex is just masturbating with each other and talking about it. Touch yourselves and talk about what you’re doing. This is a good time to break out the sex toys. Coming together or as close to together as you can even though you’re far away from each other can be pretty hot.
Take advantage of technology
You can make it more than just auditory by incorporating video technology like FaceTime or Zoom, if you dare.
Post-match analysis
You should talk about it later. Congratulate your partner on what went well for you. Everyone loves a compliment. Plus, it can make next time a lot easier. You can even set guidelines for next time.
Phrases to use
Here are some things you can consider saying:
- I wish you were here right now, there are so many places I’d want to touch, kiss and lick.
- I can’t stop thinking about how soft your skin is.
- I get the most turned on when I think about…
- What’s something you’ve always wanted to try in bed?
- What is your favourite sex position?
- What turns you on the most?
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