Dating in Nairobi is like playing x-games. You might think you’ve found your soulmate only to find out he’s a member of team mafisi. This is exactly what happened to me. I didn’t know I was setting myself up for failure when I met Douglas. He was a charming, well-spoken, and composed man that could make any girl fall for him. However, I was cautious at first knowing the kind of city we live in and such men were known players.
After a few dates, he convinced me he was different. In fact, he swore that he hated Nairobi’s party scene and he stopped going out to clubs years ago. This was like music to my ears. I used to be a party girl but I had stopped partying about a year ago to focus on my career and starting a family. So, meeting a guy who had been there and done that was good. I knew that he wouldn’t judge me for my past since he had done the same things I had.
A month into dating him, I decided to introduce him to my friends. Before that, they had only heard of Douglas but they never met him.
“What kind of guy is he?” one of them asked when I told them about him.
“He’s a gentleman.”
“Oh really? Because we don’t want to meet another team mafisi like your ex.”
“He doesn’t even go out.”
I seem to have convinced them that he was a good guy so they were open to meeting him. After the horrible experience I had with my ex, they didn’t want me to repeat the same mistake of dating a team mafisi. My ex had put me through a lot during the two years we were together. The first year was somewhat good since we both went out together. However, after I secured an office job, things took a turn for the worst. I stopped going out but he didn’t. Every weekend, there would be a new woman calling me to tell me that she was with him at the club.
It didn’t bother me at first since I thought they were just exaggerating until the day one of my girlfriends bumped into him in the club kissing another woman. I ended the relationship immediately and put a hold on finding love. Then, Doug came along and changed my mind. it was hard to say no to him since he was persistent. Before I knew it, I was going on dates with him, talking to him over the phone for hours, and quickly falling for him.
I didn’t mind, though. This love felt different and I was sure that he was no team mafisi. He was too mature for that. However, I didn’t realize team mafisi guys came in all shapes and sizes. Even the polished guy in a tailored made suit can be a man whore.
We planned for a brunch date where we would all meet. He seemed pretty eager to meet my friends which was a good sign. On the day of the brunch, he showed up at my apartment in a sharp suit and a huge bouquet of flowers for me. it was small, thoughtful things like this that made me believe that I had made the right choice and that we would be together forever.
We were the first to get to the brunch since Dug was big on timekeeping. Also, my friends are the fashionably late kind. You can’t count on them to be on time for anything.
At around 3 pm, they all walked in like they were ready to attack but their demeanour changed as soon as they saw Doug.
“Hello, ladies.” He said.
“Hi,” they all answered.
“So, you’re Doug?” one of them asked as if in disbelief.
“Yes, did you expect someone else?”
“Well, no. You’re definitely an upgrade from the guys she’s dated.”
“Okay. Thank you.”
They all seemed to like Doug from the moment they met and as the day went on, things only got better. It was finally time to go and I breathed a sigh of relief since there was no incident. However, as we headed for the exit, a woman who had been staring at us the whole time we were at the restaurant followed us.
She then tapped Douglas on the shoulder prompting him to turn back.
“Hi, Douglas. So, this is why you’ve been avoiding me for a whole month?” she asked.
He tried to play it off like he didn’t know what she was talking about but it didn’t take a genius to know what was going on. When he knew that he had been caught, he tried to charm his way out of the situation.
“How can I date you? Can’t you see I met a queen?” He said to her.
“Dated? You had multiple girlfriends on rotation every weekend.”
The more they argued, the more I felt like I was in a bad dream. I hoped it was a bad dream because I didn’t want to believe that he could be a team mafisi member. The worst part was that it was happening in front of my friends.
“Baby girl, don’t let his charm fool you. This one is a true team mafisi.”
I confronted him about it and he came clean. He was indeed a team mafisi and he admitted that he used to date multiple girlfriends. However, he swore that he was faithful for the month that we dated. Due to my past experience, I couldn’t believe his word nor did I want to take a chance. Once again, I found myself single because the guy I was dating was a team mafisi member. I’m now the friend with the mafisi exes which isn’t a good look since I had really high hopes for my love life. Though I haven’t given up completely, I’m not jumping back on the dating scene any time soon.
Here are 6 Types Of Team Mafisi You’ll Meet In Nairobi
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