Men have a playbook. If you’ve watched Think Like A Man or follow Steve Harvey and his ilk, you understand how the playbook works. However, when you’re looking for a genuine connection, it’s easy to be sceptical about there being a playbook. Maybe there is a playbook, or perhaps the players determine the game; maybe love is a game of luck, but this is the story of Naftali and his jar of broken hearts.
Life handed Naftali a blow early on in life when his parents died. His dad passed away first, and a few years later, his mother was killed in a violent robbery incident. He was hardly ten years old when he lost both parents. Fortunately, his relatives took him, but he had to slightly readjust from the lifestyle he was used to. He was an intelligent boy and excelled in his academics.
It didn’t take him long to realize that people treated him differently when he told them the sad story of his life. He got away with things he ordinarily wouldn’t, and girls gave him attention. He missed his parents dearly but wasn’t blind to what was happening.
Naftali was handsome. He was tall, fair-skinned and athletic. It also helped that he was one of those people who looked good in almost anything. Coupled with his academic brilliance, he was a catch, and he knew it. As expected, he hung around other men who looked like him, so in a group with people who have similar strengths, you have to find your differentiating aspect. ‘Vulnerability’ was his weapon of choice.
Women love it when men seem to open up to them, and Naftali knew how to play this hand. He met Carol at a work seminar. She was a hard-working lady in tech. Once they got to know each other a little more, Naftali discovered that Carol came from a Christian family who valued hard work. Naftali’s looks and success often worked against him because he gave player vibes. Girls often feared that he would break their hearts. Carol had the same fears, and that was when Naftali’ opened up’ to her.
“I’m just coming from a long-term relationship with my first love who did me dirty,” Naftali told her. He went on to explain how they had been together since campus. When he got his first well-paying job, he upgraded her life because he loved her. Unfortunately, the company closed shop, and he was jobless for almost a year. His girlfriend decided to leave him despite having been a loving boyfriend.
Carol ate up the story. It humanized this hot man, and as a believer in hard work, she could understand that even men go through rough patches. Men hardly tell stories of their losses in life, at least not men like Naftali, so she felt special.
With Miriam, he decided to tell her about his parents. He had tried throwing money at her, but it didn’t impress her much. Miriam was a head turner, so although she thought Naftali was good-looking, they were in the same league on that front. Playing on her heartstrings was the way to go. Miriam went above and beyond to show Naftali love. She pampered him and excused many of his transgressions due to his childhood loss.
Naftali was having his way with Carol and Miriam until one morning when he found himself in a new Whatsapp group. The group comprised of Miriam, Carol, Naftali and Pam. Pam was the third girl that Naftali was seeing. He was trying to venture into the entertainment industry, and Pam was a big name in the industry. Being true to himself, Naftali decided to use all the tools at his disposal to get into Pam’s good books. Pam had money and rubbed shoulders with powerful and famous men, so Naftali had to think of a way to get closer to her.
In a world where men often withhold effective communication and emotional availability, it is easy to impress any woman with those two items. Naftali played the role of the ‘transparent’ suitor to Pam. He sent real-time pictures to prove he was at work or out with friends. He also went further and told Pam another sob story to create a ‘deeper’ bond with her. It was going all well until Pam’s friend discovered she was interested in Naftali. The friend knew of Naftali’s womanizing ways. She asked her to be vigilant.
Pam was falling hard and fast for Naftali, which got her to look more closely. Meanwhile, with Pam’s entrance of Pam into the equation, Naftali was spreading himself thin. He couldn’t adequately bond with three women at the same time. He slipped up while with Pam, and she got suspicious. Her suspicions led her to discover about Miriam and Carol. She contacted each individually, and they all ended up in the WhatsApp group to confront him.
Arrogantly, he read everything all the women had to say but didn’t respond. Carol was terribly hurt. Pam developed a hatred for him and made it difficult for him to venture into business with her contacts. Miriam ended things with him, but they ran in the same circles. Later on, Naftali would admit to her that although he had faced most of the misfortunes he told women, he had moved on, but it was always a card he could use with women.
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