The excitement of dating someone new can easily make you think you’ve met the perfect guy or girl. Then, you start noticing some red flags about your significant other that make you question whether they’re really a good fit for you. We have some obvious deal-breakers that prompt us to end a relationship. However, some red flags go unnoticed but can be irking in the long run. Here are some red flags to look out for while dating.
They Need To Feel Needed
Some people build their relationship on being the alpha or the sole provider. We can’t control our situations when we meet our partners. You may have met your boyfriend or girlfriend when you were financially or emotionally dependent on someone. However, if your relationship is built on this dependency, there will be little room for growth. A good partner will help you become more independent other than capitalizing on your dependency.
They Over Compliment You
This is one of those red flags you didn’t think was possible but it’s a big no-no. Yes, compliments are great in a relationship. It affirms their attraction to you. There are limits, however. Your partner shouldn’t always be telling you how perfect or beautiful you are. This puts you on an unrealistic pedestal. He or she isn’t really complimenting you but the idea they have of you leading to an unhealthy obsession.
They Test Your Boundaries
If your partner is constantly pushing the boundaries, they’re not for you. Someone who genuinely loves you will respect your rules as you would with them. If they try to push you into doing something you’re not ready for or totally disregard your personal space, leave their disrespectful selves alone.
They Get Too Serious Too Fast
Have you ever been on a first date and the guy is already talking about marrying you and picking baby names? This isn’t a sign that he’s serious about your relationship but it’s one of the red flags you should look out for while dating. You don’t want to date someone who seems desperate to settle down. This is also an indication that they’re insecure or lack emotional intelligence. They’ll rush you into things that should be done in due course.
You shouldn’t be laughing alone when your significant other talks badly about their exes. You should be running. They might be in denial of what caused their relationship to end. Additionally, this is a sign of immaturity and they are likely to project this kind of behaviour on you and the relationship. You’ll always be painted as the bad guy even when you haven’t done anything.
They Don’t Bring You Peace
You’re going to be spending a significant amount of time around this person. Therefore, it’s important that they bring you peace. Your mental health comes first and you shouldn’t compromise on it for someone else’s happiness. If they show any red flags, don’t hesitate to confront them. Additionally, if they’re unwilling to change then you should walk away from toxic behaviours.
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