One of the perks of dating an older man is getting the princess treatment. In fact, this is one of the main reasons many young girls go for older men. They provide a lifestyle that most young men can’t. I had dated a number of older men in the past and it was fun while it lasted. Unfortunately, most of those men don’t end up settling with younger girls. The relationship can last for years but they never propose marriage. When I met another older man, I thought it would be the same as before. I thought that I would get princess treatment only for him to try to turn me into a house help.
Mark was in his mid-40s but looked much younger than his age. He had also never been married which was a plus for me. When we met, there was an instant attraction and after a few dates, he invited me to his place. Since I was already developing feelings for him, I agreed.
When we got to his apartment, I almost cried because of the condition it was in. The apartment was beautiful in a good neighbourhood but when he opened his door, I was welcomed by the sight and smell of dirty dishes and trash everywhere. I stood frozen at the door as I looked in disbelief.
“Welcome to my place.” He said.
I still couldn’t believe what I was seeing but decided to give him the benefit of the doubt. I thought he might have forgotten how he had left his house before inviting me over. However, I couldn’t stay for long because I wasn’t comfortable.
“I need to leave.”
“Why? We just arrived.”
“I have to do something at home.”
“Okay. No problem. We’ll meet soon.” He said as he walked me to the door.
After a few days, he invited me to his place again. I thought that he was trying to redeem himself and make a good impression on me. When I got there, the apartment was still dirty. In fact, it was dirtier than when I left it. The unfortunate part was I really liked this guy which was probably why I didn’t see the obvious red flag.
I walked in and stood by the door. Again, I wasn’t comfortable being in the apartment. As I looked at the mess, Dan came and greeted me.
“Hi, darling.” He said while hugging me.
“You look lovely.”
“I need to go to the office for a quick meeting but I’ll be back soon. Make yourself comfortable.” He said.
Before I could say anything, he went and I was left alone in his apartment. Since I had dated an older man before, I knew that they had a busy life and it wasn’t a surprise to be left alone in the house.
While I was there, I decided to clean his house thinking he would be happy and treat me to something nice. I mopped the doors, cleaned the dishes, did his laundry and made sure every corner of his place was sparkling clean. When I was in the process of cleaning, I called my friend to let her know what was happening.
“Why would you do that?” She asked.
“I like him. Besides, I don’t feel comfortable staying in a dirty place.”
“First of all, who invites someone they’re trying to impress to a dirty house? What will happen when you start dating?” She asked.
“It’s not a big deal. You know how busy such men get. Maybe he didn’t have time to clean.”
“Just be careful he doesn’t turn you to his house help.”
I laughed thinking that my friend was being dramatic as she always was.
When Dan came back from work, the apartment looked completely different. However, I didn’t get the reaction that I expected.
“You didn’t have to clean my place.” He said as he walked around the spotless room. “Why did you move my Bible? I like it when things are in a particular order.”
This was another red flag that I didn’t see at the time. Despite using my time and energy to clean his house, Dan tried to make it seem like I had done something wrong. I got offended since he wasn’t appreciative.
“I want to leave.”
“Okay. Let me drop you home.”
He drove me to my place and then left. He must have noticed that I wasn’t happy because, after a few minutes, I got a text from him saying that he was thankful for cleaning his place.
I thought we were finally headed in the right direction. I prepared food for him and sent it to his place thinking that he would at least love the gesture but he sent me a message telling me that the food wasn’t good. It was hurtful but I didn’t take it to heart.
However, my patience was reaching its limits. He invited me to his place again and this time, I promised myself that if his house was dirty again, I would never go back. When I got to his place, I nearly fainted. It had only been a few days but his place was filthy.
Just like before, he had another emergency at work and left before I could even figure out what was going on. I called my friend to ask her what I should do and as usual she told me not to clean the place.
“If you clean that house, I will come there and beat you.” She said jokingly.
As I promised myself, I didn’t clean the apartment. I locked it and sent Dan a message telling him that I had left. He went back to his place and found that it was still dirty. Then, this man had the audacity of messaging me to ask me why I didn’t clean his apartment.
“Why would you come to a man’s house and see that it’s not tidy and feel comfortable leaving it like that? Is this how you want to find your future partner?” He wrote.
When I saw the message, I just laughed. It wasn’t even insulting because it was like he was insulting himself.
I replied to him saying, “I think you should go and get a cleaner. It’s obvious you’re not looking for a relationship, you’re looking for a cleaner and I won’t make myself available for that.”
After that, I thought I had broken free from the chains of a wicked older man but he didn’t want to let me be.
“You must get pregnant for me first before I do anything for you.” He said.
I was so confused since we weren’t even dating yet he was talking about pregnancy. Eventually, I managed to cut him off from my life completely and I’ve never looked back. I wouldn’t elvish that much Corrie me on my worst enemy.
This story is partly based on Preciousubani‘s TikTok video.
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