From the moment I started talking to Kevin, I knew that I was in for a wild ride. My intentions were never to meet him in person. I just wanted to engage with him and pick his brain. He had an interesting Tinder bio which mentioned that he wanted a lady with “a high sex drive” and that he was a “sex toy connoisseur”. I found it funny and decided to find out for myself whether indeed he was a sex toy connoisseur.
However, I had a lot of bad experiences with Tinder dates and I was a bit hesitant to meet him. It was also a bit strange how excited he was to match with me.
“You’re the girl of my dreams.” He said in a message.
“What do you do for a living?”
“I work for a tech company.”
“Women in tech… I like that. I want to meet you tonight.”
It wasn’t unusual for a Tinder match to ask for a date the same day that you match. However, Kevin’s bio raised a few red flags. It was clear that he was on Tinder for sex and he wasn’t trying to hide it. When I questioned him about it, he changed his tune.
“I’m actually a hopeless romantic.” He insisted.
“There’s nothing in your bio that says you’re a hopeless romantic.”
“That’s my plan. You have to date me to find out. How about we meet over the weekend?”
“I’m busy. I have a family thing.”
Despite shutting down his requests, Kevin didn’t give up. He messaged me every day and I started to see him in a different light. He turned out to be a pretty normal guy and completely different from the sex toy connoisseur he portrayed himself to be on Tinder. Nonetheless, I already had another impression of him and it would take a lot of effort to convince me otherwise.
“I can’t tell if you’re pretending to be a normal guy or this is who you are in real life,” I said.
“This is the real me. The guy you met on Tinder is just an obnoxious, overconfident version of me.”
“I like that version too. I think he’s funny.”
“You can have whichever version you want.”
I slowly warmed up to him and found myself giggling like a schoolgirl anytime I got a text from him. After a month of messaging each other, Kevin insisted that he wanted to meet me in person. He tried to set up dates but I always cancelled out on him. Finally, he decided to come to where I was.
He knew my neighbourhood and came to one of the malls in the area. While he was there, he texted me asking where I was.
“I’m at home,” I answered innocently.
“Perfect. I’m in your neighbourhood. Come to TRM.” He said.
I had no other excuse left since I had told him I was at home and I wasn’t doing anything.
“I’m waiting for you.” He said.
I prepared myself quickly and in less than an hour, I was at the restaurant. The moment we met, it was like we had known each other for a lifetime. He looked exactly how I thought he looked. In fact, he was more good looking willing was a pleasant surprise in this age of catfishing.
“We’ve finally met.” He said while hugging me.
“I know. It feels like we’ve been talking for years.” I answered.
We had dinner and everything was flowing smoothly. Then, out of the blue, Kevin asked me a very awkward question.
“Have you ever used a sex toy?”
He had asked me this question before when we were texting on Tinder but I didn’t expect him to bring it up in person. In fact, I didn’t expect him to bring up anything related to sex on the first date.
“I already told you that I haven’t,” I answered, slightly embarrassed.
“I’ve never had an interest.”
“No, you just never met me before but today is your lucky day.” He said then reached for his backpack.
I peaked to see what he was looking for then spotted a sex toy. He removed it from his bag discreetly and showed it to me.
“What’s that?” I asked, pretending not to know what it was.
“It’s called a rabbit vibrator.” He said with a proud smirk on his face. “I got it for you.”
I didn’t know whether to be offended or flattered that at least he brought me a gift. After staring at it for a minute, I decided that I didn’t want it.
“I don’t use sex toys.”
“You should start. It will change your sex life forever.”
“My sex life is fine.”
“Really?” He said in a suggestive tone.
“This is so uncomfortable. Could you return the sex toy in your bag?”
“Sure. I thought you were more open-minded. Why did you match with me? I have clearly stated that I’m a sex toy connoisseur.”
“Yes, but I didn’t think you would take it this far, especially on a first date. I think I should go.”
He promised that he wouldn’t bring it up again if I stayed. However, I couldn’t get my mind off the sex toy in his bag. The more I stayed on the date, the more I thought of the worst-case scenarios.
“What if he’s a rapist?” I wondered to myself. “Who brings a sex toy to a date?”
Since I had left the house in a hurry, no one knew where I was or who I was going to meet. I also didn’t want to raise any false alarms. However, I tried to leave once again and he insisted that he wanted to take me home. I excused myself to go to the bathroom where I locked myself in and called a friend to pick me up.
I called the biggest, toughest-looking man I could think of and he came to my rescue. The waitress who I had told what was happening came to call me in the bathroom when my friend came and we both walked out without saying anything to Kevin. Though I had to stay in the bathroom for two hours, I was so happy to be leaving the restaurant.
As we walked out, I could feel his piercing gaze on me but I felt safe with my friend. We drove to my place as I explained what had happened. He couldn’t help but laugh at me and then warn me against meeting strangers on Tinder. After that date, I was definitely not returning to the app.
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