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The Singlehood Series: I Was Jealous Of My Best Friend Because She Got Married And Pregnant This Year

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The Singlehood Series: I Was Jealous Of My Best Friend Because She Got Married And Pregnant This Year

She copied everything I did but when we got older, the tables turned.

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My best friend and I have always been in competition ever since our high school days. When I joined the drama club, she joined the drama club. When I started wearing glasses, she started wearing glasses. She did everything I did and for most of our lives, she wanted to be like me. She even picked the same career I did.

The tables turned after we finished university. I chose a different path that saw me going around in circles while she thrived in her career and personal life. That was the first time that I felt jealous of my best friend.

We remained friends throughout the years but I could see my life going downhill while hers was going up. Don’t get me wrong I’ve had more exciting times than she has. However, they never led me anywhere. I always hit a brick wall in my love life and my career.

On the other hand, Stacy stayed consistent in her job and her career which enabled her to make progress. While I was constantly starting over, she was moving forward. It got to a point where she was giving me life advice, the girl who had copied me for all my life was now advising me.

“Have you tried applying for government jobs? They take practically anyone.” She said.

“I have a job.”

“You manage people’s social media accounts. How can you call that a job? You should be a manager in a company.”

It was humiliating but I tried to look at the bright side of things. I was still the more attractive best friend and I dated wealthier men. If I had nothing else to be proud of, at least I could be proud of that.

Besides, Stacy was still secretly jealous of me. She was jealous that I could afford a nice apartment yet I didn’t have a “job” and that I had travelled to so many places yet the only place her Prince Charming could afford to take her was Mombasa – not even Diani.

However, as the years went by, I longed for more stability. I wanted a boyfriend I could come home to every night. I wanted a boring office job and all the cliches of adulthood. The fast life was no longer exciting. It was tiring. I wondered when the cycle would end.

Stacy had the things I wanted – a stable job and a stable relationship. Even though I was slightly jealous of her, I still admired her. She had really made something out of her life and it was amazing to see. It made me realize that if she could do it, I could do it too. However, it’s easier said than done.

I tried to get a regular job but I soon realized why I never did. Office jobs weren’t my thing. I grew tired and bored quickly and I quit within two months. I went back to my freelancing gigs and decided to focus on getting a man.

“If I got a rich boyfriend, I wouldn’t have to stress about paying my bills.” I thought to myself.

However, that was also easier said than done. I did meet lots of rich guys but we never had a connection. Ironically, I met a guy who I really liked but he turned out to be broke. We still dated but I had one foot in and one foot out. The relationship didn’t last very long.

That became the story of my life for a whole year. I dated all kinds of men but none of them lasted. Eventually, I decided to take a break from relationships and focus on my career.

It was probably the best decision I ever made in my life. I cut off almost everyone in my life, including my best friend, and isolated myself so I could put all my energy into my work.

“What happened to you? Did I do something wrong? Why don’t you talk to me anymore?” Stacy asked.

I didn’t reply. All her attempts to reach me were unsuccessful. I was too busy working on my craft and eventually, it paid off. I opened an agency which was doing well. Just as I was enjoying my success and sharing it on social media, I got a blast from the past.

Stacy contacted me. We hadn’t talked for almost two years. She reached out to me on TikTok after I shared a link with my profile.

“Hi best friend, I know we haven’t talked in a while but I would like to invite you to my wedding. It’s next month.”

I nearly fainted. For some reason, it hit me hard. I never expected her to get married before me. I was the one who got all the boys. How could she be getting married when I don’t even have a boyfriend?

I started getting jealous of her again. Despite having a successful business and a fairly good life, Stacy reminded me that she still had one thing that I didn’t – a man who loved her.

Obviously, I didn’t attend the wedding but some of our mutual friends did and from the pictures they shared, the wedding looked simple.

After a few weeks, I forgot all about it and continued to enjoy my life. Then, Stacy came back to ruin my peace.

“Since you didn’t attend my wedding, you must attend my baby shower.” She wrote.

I think I lost consciousness at that time. A wedding and a baby in the same year? How lucky can she be? I couldn’t even keep a man for more than a few months yet my best friend was having a baby with a man she loved.

At that point, I stopped feeling jealous of her and was happy that she had found real love. I, of all people, knew how difficult it was.

I responded to her message saying, “Of course I will. Send me the details.”

She sent them and we finally reunited after years apart. It was a happy reunion. We caught up on lost time and made a promise never to let our friendship die again.

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