One of my weaknesses is that I’m very friendly. I’ll talk to everyone and give my number to people I barely know. I just don’t know how to say no. This isn’t a bad thing but it has put me in situations which I shouldn’t be in. Luckily, I’ve managed to stay out of trouble but I’ve dealt with some peculiar people. When I started my new job, I met someone who I thought would be a good friend. He ended up being a stalker and showed up at my workplace uninvited.
I was waiting for the elevator after a long day at work when a tall, good-looking man joined me.
“Hi,” he said.
“Hi,” I replied with a smile.
“Do you work in the building?”
“Yes.”
“What do you do?”
“Take a guess.”
“You look like a journalist.” He said.
There was a media house in the building and the girls who came from that office were really beautiful so I was flattered he thought that I looked like I worked there.
“No, I’m an IT specialist,” I replied.
“Wow, that’s impressive.”
We talked for a few more minutes before the elevator came and we got in together. I gave him my number while we talked, and then he got out on the first floor and I proceeded to the ground floor.
“I’ll talk to you later.” He said before the elevator doors closed.
“Okay, bye,” I answered.
I got a message from him later that evening letting me know that he had got home and he was preparing dinner. We had the usual small talk until I was ready to go to sleep.
“Can I see you tomorrow?” He asked.
“Sure, we can meet at lunchtime.”
“Great. I can show you where I usually go for lunch.”
There was something about Noel that made me giddy. He just seemed like a genuinely nice guy. I thought that heaven was really shining down on me – a new job and a good-looking guy friend in less than a month. That was more than I could have asked for.
We met the following day as promised and he took me to lunch. After lunch, we went back to our workplace and didn’t talk until the end of the day. I hadn’t seen anything unusual about Noel. He didn’t keep calling or texting me all day like some of the other people I had met. We quickly became friends and would spend most of our free time at work together.
However, I was still cautious due to past experiences and restricted my interactions with him to the workplace. He tried a number of times to invite me to his place but I turned down his invites.
“Can I come to your place then?” He asked.
“My place is a mess right now.” I lied.
“How about next weekend?”
“I’ll be out of town.”
I had an excuse for every time that he asked to come over. When he realized that I wasn’t going to let him visit me, his demeanour changed immediately. He was still nice to me but he wasn’t that nice which made me realize that he was putting on an act just so he could come to my place.
I also noticed that Noel wasn’t just interested in a friendship. He was looking for something more and even though I clearly told him that I wasn’t interested in being in a relationship but he kept insisting.
“You’re single, right?” He asked.
“Yes, but that doesn’t mean that I’m looking for a relationship.”
“You know you won’t be young and good-looking forever. You better find someone to spend the rest of your life with.”
“I will, just not right now.”
“Well, if you’re looking, I’m available.”
I laughed trying to brush off his advances but it was the same story every day. I grew tired of the questions and decided to cut off communication with him since I didn’t want to give him false hope.
At first, I thought I was successful. I went for a week without seeing or hearing from Noel but it turned out he had taken a work leave since he was allegedly sick. The following week, I found him standing outside my office.
“What are you doing here?” I asked.
“I missed you. Why didn’t you call to check if I was okay last week?”
“I was a bit busy with work.”
“Can we go for lunch today?”
“I can’t. I have a lot of work.”
“Okay. I understand.”
He went away but later in the day, the receptionist informed me that I had a visitor. It was Noel. I asked him to leave again and not to come to my workplace again. Still, he kept calling and texting me persistently even though I didn’t reply. Then, he started showing up at my office.
Since we worked in the same building, it was hard to avoid Noel. He randomly showed up at my workplace and disrupted my work to the point that my boss noticed it.
“Who is that person who keeps coming to see you?” He asked.
“He’s an old friend.”
“That’s fine but keep the friendship outside the office.”
Despite pleading with him, Noel wouldn’t stop showing up at my workplace without my knowledge. I even tried to get the security guards involved but there wasn’t much they could do.
He harassed me for a whole month which really took a toll on my productivity and workflow. At some point, I considered quitting my job since everyone learnt what was happening and started spreading rumours about it.
“I heard that you owe the guy a lot of money.” One of my colleagues said, trying to inquire about the situation.
“What? No! I just met him on the elevator and he won’t leave me alone now.” I explained.
It took a while for me to convince people that there was nothing sinister going on. After a month, Noel disappeared into thin air. He stopped coming to the office and calling me endlessly. No one knows where he went since he stopped showing up to his workplace as well.
To be honest, I couldn’t be bothered to find out what happened to him. I’m just relieved that I don’t have to hear from him again. He made me realize just how bad being friendly can be. From that day, I stopped being friendly with strangers.
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