An orgasm is a reflex that occurs after great sexual pleasure. Muscles rhythmically tighten and relax when your body achieves a climax of pleasure. However, orgasms come in various sensations and sizes. This depends on which part of your body was stimulated. There are orgasms that help you relax, others that keep you amped up, and others that help your pleasure last longer. Many people assume that ejaculation is the end all and be all of the sex but it can always go further, deeper, longer, and stronger.
Orgasms have great emotional effects. Studies show that they release feel-good hormones such as oxytocin, which increases intensity between partners.
Types of orgasms based on the area of stimulation
1. Clitoral orgasms
The clitoris is a sensitive part of the vagina. It is an organ that contains thousands of nerve endings from the front wall of the vagina to a nub in between the vulva. When aroused, it becomes erect in the vulva. Touching the clitoris or the surrounding area causes the clitoris to become engorged. Further stimulation can lead to an orgasm. Stroking the clitoris using fingers, a tongue or a sex toy can help achieve a clitoral orgasm.
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2. G-spot orgasm
Stimulating the G-spot through penetrative sex can stimulate an orgasm. There isn’t a consensus on where the G-spot is but for most people, the area where they have extra sensation in the vagina is the front wall. To locate where your G-spot is, insert your fingers into your vagina and make a forward motion. If you feel a spongy or ridged area with extra sensation, this is where the G-spot is. Arousal makes this area fill with blood and become engorged which increases sexual stimulation.
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3. Vaginal orgasm
An orgasm caused by penetration that doesn’t stimulate the clitoris or G-spot is a vaginal climax. The vagina has multiple erogenous zones. The high front wall of the vagina, just below the cervix is highly sensitive. Some people can also climax by touching the cervix. However, it’s extremely sensitive, and forceful contact can lead to pain. Touching the cervix can cause the uterus to contract with pleasure. The ligaments with nerves in the area increase pleasure.
Studies show that many people can’t achieve orgasm through vaginal sex alone. Changing the angle of the hips or shallow thrusts can help increase the chances of a vaginal climax.
4. Nipple orgasm
Breasts can be extremely erogenous zones, particularly the nipples. They are loaded with nerve endings and sensitive skin. Research shows that touching, squeezing, kissing, pinching, or sucking the nipples can cause an orgasm. However, the studies don’t show why sensations in the nipple can cause climaxes. Touching the nipples in a circular motion helps increase sexual stimulation.
5. Anal orgasm
Anal play can lead to orgasm by indirectly stimulating other erogenous zones such as the perineum and the clitoris. For some, the anal sphincter is sensitive enough to lead to climax. The anus is connected to the pelvic floor muscles which are also connected to the vagina. Anal sex also stimulates nerves and muscles around the vagina. This contraction can lead to orgasm. Inserting an anal sex toy during oral or penetrative sex can also trigger an orgasm.
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6. Blended or combo orgasm
This is a climax that happens when more than one erogenous area is stimulated. This could be from the five main erogenous zones or other kinks. A blended climax happens when blood flow increases from multiple areas in the body. A great way to get a blended climax is the cowgirl position, or using sex toys during penetrative sex.
How can you boost your intimacy?
You can make your climax taper by experiencing a ruined orgasm. This is known as a spoiled orgasm. It happens when you stop a climax just when it’s about to begin or crescendo. It’s similar to edging, which is repeatedly stopping an orgasm to increase the intensity when you finally climax. However, a ruined orgasm doesn’t let the climax unfold. It leaves you or your partner without the satisfaction of a climax.
Playing with ruined orgasms can fall into sadomasochistic kinks. But it’s a way to go through your day with a climax just waiting to be released. The build-up that leads to a climax fills the body with a specific energy. In addition, due to the express trust built between partners, it can create deeper feelings of intimacy.
A ruined orgasm can feel great because your body goes through all the physiological changes but the release is the only thing that doesn’t occur. The sex still causes a release of oxytocin, endorphins, and other happy hormones. Giving your partner permission to leave you hanging and take care of you afterwards can increase euphoria.
This also shows how orgasms shouldn’t always be the goal of sex. If you wish to create more intimacy with your partner, ruined orgasms aren’t the only way to go. Forced orgasms can also work. This is when you make your partner have an orgasm on command or rushed. It can be achieved through instructional masturbation or fast-paced intense sex.
Ruined orgasms can also cause your partner to cry due to intense feelings of frustration or abandonment. The sudden loss of a stimulus can feel like reduced attention. Your partner should be able to handle these ebbing feelings and either comfort you through this process. This method isn’t for every couple because it does lie within the scope of BDSM (bondage, discipline, and sadomasochism) which requires a lot of discussion beforehand to establish limits and boundaries.
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