Finding a partner has been a challenge for me. I’m 35 years old and still single while most of my friends are having their second or third child. I’m a bit antisocial and a workaholic which has made it hard for me to socialize in real life. Thankfully, dating apps and social media have come to my rescue but I’m yet to meet someone. When I came across Maureen’s profile on social media, I thought she was perfect. She seemed mature and real, unlike most people I had seen on the app. So, I DM’d her and asked her out on a date.
She rejected me several times but I was determined to meet her since I felt like I could get along with her. I continued to DM her until she eventually gave me her number. I was curious about what she did for a living since she seemed like she was doing well in life. It was also something I asked any girl I met online just to make sure she wasn’t looking for a sponsor.
“I’m a chef.” She said.
My heart almost skipped a beat. I loved food and now I knew someone who could cook good food.
“What’s your favourite dish to prepare?” I asked.
“I specialized in African dishes. My favourite is Biryani but I’m trying to learn how to cook food from other countries.”
The more we talked, the more she made me believe that she was a serious woman and someone who was ready for a relationship.
“Where do you work?” I asked her.
“I’m self-employed. I have my own catering business.”
“Nice. I can’t wait to taste your delicious food.”
“We can go on a date first and know each other a bit better.”
“That sounds good. I’m busy this weekend but I’ll be free the next one.”
“Okay. I will call you next week and we can plan the date.”
We didn’t talk for a whole week but I couldn’t stop thinking about her. I kept looking at her pictures on social media and fantasizing about our date. However, after looking through her many sexy pictures, I noticed that she didn’t have a single picture of her cooking. Most people I knew who had businesses marketed them online but she didn’t have a single hint that she had a business.
I didn’t think it was suspicious though. As I said, I thought that I had met the girl of my dreams and I didn’t want to believe anything otherwise. When I told one of my friends, he also thought it wasn’t a big deal.
“Maybe it’s a kibanda or it’s still being built.” He said.
“I know you’re trying to find a reason not to go on the date but just keep an open mind.”
“I’m not. In fact, I’m looking forward to meeting her. She seems like someone I can get along with.”
“Okay. Make sure you prepare well. You have a week.” He advised.
I got so caught up with work and preparing for the date that I lost track of time and forgot to call Maureen the following week. I thought that it was too late and I had ruined my chances with her. After all, she was a beautiful and successful woman who must have had many men hitting on her. However, she reached out the following day and she wasn’t happy.
“So, my number is a decoration on your phone?” She asked sarcastically.
“No, I just got busy with work.”
“No one is busy. You just didn’t make time.”
“I’m sorry. I really had an overwhelming week.”
“It’s fine, just don’t repeat it again.”
“So where are you taking me on a date?”
“Where do you want to go?”
“We can go anywhere as long as you send an Uber to pick me up.”
“Sure. Whatever you want.”
Maureen followed up with a few more demands including a gift and flowers. It was the first time anyone had asked me to bring anything on a date but I assumed she was used to such treatment so I didn’t protest. After we agreed on everything, she hung up without even saying goodnight.
I still kept an open mind so that the date would be perfect. When we met in person, I was surprised to see how she looked. She wasn’t as well kept as she looked in her pictures. Her hair looked untidy, her makeup looked cheap and some of her nails had come off. I went to the date expecting to meet a queen but I met a cleaner instead. Even her clothes had stains on them.
“Are you okay?” I asked after taking a second look at her.
“Yes, I am. Why?”
“You don’t look fine. Did you come from somewhere?”
“I came from home. Anyway, are we going to order food?”
Just when I thought that the worst part was over, she started ranting about her money problems.
“I thought you had a business.”
“That was a lie. I was a stay-at-home mum but I had a disagreement with my baby daddy and I had to move out.”
“Your social media makes you look like a slay queen.”
“Sometimes, I get money from friends or well-wishers which I survive on.”
I couldn’t believe what I was hearing but I appreciated her honesty. After her rant, she asked me to pay her rent and her child’s school fees. It was more of a demand than a request which I obviously refused. I didn’t know her nor did I have a desire to. However, I sent her Ksh 2000 to buy something for her child and left.
When I got to the Uber, she started texting and calling me asking for more money which forced me to block her number. I was so embarrassed about how the date went that I told my friend she didn’t show up. It was better than explaining what had happened.
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