My relationship with James started off on the wrong foot which explains why he thought he could have a threesome with me. On our first date, he assumed I was there for a hookup and asked me how much I wanted to be paid. However, I didn’t get too offended. Many girls on dating sites were there for business so he must have thought I was the same. After clarifying that I was looking for a relationship, his tone changed.
“I want a serious relationship. I’m not here for a hookup.”
“That’s different. I like that.” He said.
“Every girl on Tinder isn’t there to hook up,” I said.
“However, I’m not ready for a relationship right now.”
“I understand. We’ll see how things go.”
I must have made a good impression on him because he asked me to be his girlfriend a month after we met. It was completely unexpected but I still agreed since he had treated me so well in the short time we had known each other.
James had a few habits that I didn’t like. For instance, he went out almost every day of the week. On the other hand, he had a lot of good qualities that made up for the bad ones. He had a good job, he was quite romantic and most importantly, he took care of me.
Even though I told him that I didn’t want a transactional relationship, the Luo in him wouldn’t let his woman spend her money when he was around. Throughout that relationship, I never spent a single shilling on my hair or nails yet they were always done. It was different since I was used to dating men who would ask me to split the bill on a date.
The money definitely made me ignore his bad qualities which was a mistake I regret to this day. The first time I felt disrespected by James was when we went out for my birthday and he invited a group of girls I didn’t know. I didn’t have an issue with them but when he asked me if we could have a threesome with one of them, I lost my mind.
“I can’t believe you would disrespect me like that on my birthday.”
“I’m sorry. I thought you were okay with it.”
“I’m not. I want to go home.”
“Okay. Let me drive you there.”
“I’ll take an Uber.”
Before he could convince me to stay, I left him and the other girls at the club and went home. The following day, one of my friends who had attended the party told me that he left with two girls.
I dismissed the rumours thinking that my friends were simply jealous because I had found a rich man who loved me. However, I came to see for myself that these weren’t just rumours.
A few months after we started dating, I went for a weekend sleepover at his place. This was the first time I had stayed a whole weekend there. Normally, I’d sleep over after a night out and then leave in the morning. However, I felt comfortable staying the whole weekend at his place since we had known each other pretty well and he had opened his home to me.
On Sunday of that weekend, he left for a family meeting and I prepared to go back to my place. As I was getting ready, I heard a knock on the door. I thought that James had ordered something so I opened the door only to be met by a young, well-dressed girl who stormed into the house.
“Where is James?” She asked.
“He’s not here. Who are you?”
“I’m his girlfriend. I’ve known him for more than three years.”
I laughed because of how foolish I felt at the moment. After asking her more questions, I found out that she was telling the truth. Even worse, we were not the only ones. Apparently, she had come to confront him because she heard that he was dating another girl – a tall, dark girl. Clearly, that wasn’t me. I wasn’t tall or dark.
I wanted to wait for James to come back with her but I had already made other plans with my friends so I left. However, I gave her my number and asked her to call if she needed my help.
I don’t know what transpired that day but the following day, James called me and asked me to come to his place.
“What happened yesterday?” He asked as soon as we met.
“You tell me. Who is that girl?”
“She’s a friend.”
“Friend? She said she was your girlfriend.”
As we talked, there was a knock on the door which paralyzed me. I thought it was the girl or worse, another girl. However, James didn’t seem worried so it put me at ease. When he opened the door, an unfamiliar woman walked in. She matched the description of the girl I was told about – tall and dark. It must have been the same girl.
She greeted me and then sat next to me. James served us drinks as we got to know each other. Before I knew it, we were all drunk then James brought up the threesome issue again.
“Are you trying to trick me into having a threesome?” I asked drunkenly.
“It’s not a big deal. It will be fun.” He said, trying to convince me.
“I can’t.”
“I’ve already paid her a lot of money.” He said.
I don’t know if he thought that would somehow convince me to have a threesome with him but I’ve never been so offended in my life. Since it was quite late, I couldn’t leave his place. I ended up sleeping on the couch then woke up early in the morning to leave.
He gave me some money for my Uber and asked if I could come that evening. I agreed just so he would let me go. However, I was gone for good. That was the last straw. I didn’t care about the money, gifts or trips. I just wanted a man who was serious about me.
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