Part of what makes life cosier is friendships. When one mentions friendship the things that come to mind are all the good things that come with friendship, including fun times, laughter, warmth, and support, rarely does anyone mention the issues in friendships, which are sometimes too much to tolerate, leading to people cutting off these friends.
I am sure you had a friend whom you used to be too close to. Now, they are another person who is an acquaintance. You two rarely talk the way you used to, and maybe there are no signs of that closeness ever returning.
We cut people off due to different reasons. It might be wrong they did you or an intention you saw in them that did not sit well with you. It could even be something petty that you could not stand. Whichever the case, every person’s reason to cut off another is valid.
A Twitter user by the Twitter handle @wealth_director asked in a tweet what made people cut off their friends and from the replies, here are people’s reasons for cutting off their friends.
When friendship becomes one-sided, you will get more apologies about prior plans they had for a particular event or activity. For instance, something significant happens in their lives, and you never knew about it. When you find out and ask, they use the cliché response of, “I should have told you”. This was the case for a Twitter user by the name @Ladydie_Sage.
You have probably encountered this one. Somebody is your friend but something about their character does not sit well with you. Some, like Ol@sing, decide to cut them off.
In other instances, the friendship that attracts cutting off is one in a parent-child dynamic. This type of friendship involves one party taking the parent’s role while the other takes up the child’s role. Here, the one taking up the parent role keeps giving and receiving nothing from the other party. The @chicken_noodley cut the friend off due to this.
While many people have unique reasons for cutting others off, a user by the name @_Shekon_ had one very peculiar reason. Her friend copied her style, and that was it for her.
Friendship ought to bring flavour to one’s life. However, when a friendship starts becoming the crack that drains you of life because of too much judgement, then it becomes pointless. A user named @justapersianmum gave this as the reason she cut off friends.
Communication may be the one aspect that either makes or breaks any relationship. When communication is founded on constant misunderstanding, then the friendship ends up being too much work, like in the case of @Maggiemagssssss
Talking of one-sided friendships, have you ever experienced a situation where you can be there for your friend, but you are not sure if they will be there for you just in case you need help? This case led to a user named @ugh_no_than_you cutting off a friend.
Still, on one-sided friendships, it sometimes takes a painful moment to know who your friends are. Some friends are only there during the good times. Otherwise, when you get sick or experience something terrible, they disappear. For @zloe54646645, this painful moment involved getting diagnosed with cancer and reaching out to a friend who showed no concern.
While everyone gives their reason for cutting off friends, someone comes with a different perspective. According to @AndreasKoureas9, the cut-offs we are talking about are only phases where we get a clear view of friendship.
Other times, an individual’s cutting off another individual never comes from the point of their being wrong. One may cut off another individual from his or her life because the individual may be too good for them. Sometimes you realize that an individual has a distorted view of who we are. Meaning their expectations may not even be met in the long run. For the user by the name @kimitiEsther, cutting off her friend was from this perspective.
When one is growth-oriented, one would want to have someone who aligns with this mindset so that they can move together. When a friend comes off as not wanting to grow, the other party could be motivated to cut off ties.
Then, of course, some friends only want you for themselves. It never sits well with them to see you with another friend. For the user by the name @Ak_Iheanacho, this friendship was coupled with clinginess and stalking.
They say that when respect isn’t served, do not sit to dine at that table. For @itzz_Bareera, the lack of respect for their friendship from the other party pushed him to initiate a cut-off.
While cutting off is a real thing happening all around, for @victor02852133 cutting off of friends only happens when the two people were not actual friends, to begin with.
When a friend ignored @Frosa1980 because she was spending time with her other friends, this did not sit well with her. What happened to introducing your friend to your other friends and getting along?
Sometimes, one gets too busy even to get a moment to talk with a friend. This is where if one’s friends are not understanding, then it may seem like one is distancing themselves, which may not be the case. For @TrengYang, planning her wedding was time-consuming. They got little time together. This led her friends to give her an ultimatum to choose between the husband and them, which was it for their friendship.
While some people do the cutting-off quickly, others take ages to execute this intention. For @Jaden_Hercules, it has always been saying it but not cutting off the friends.
Other times, cutting off an individual is not about what they have done to you. However, the cutting off may be due to aspects such as incompatibility and their beliefs. For @Lyrndah, cutting off a friend was about how they were incompatible with each other, and the friend’s ideas of what was cool did not sit well with her.
Boundaries in friendships have a thin line that one friend may cross from time to time, leading to conflicts. For eo_ditty, cutting off a particular friend came from disrespecting her boundaries.
Here is another instance of a one-sided friendship. One-sided friendships may even involve a lack of communication from one party. Here, the friend of @widdershins99 went silent when she stopped calling and texting.
Cutting off sometimes comes from the point of protecting a friend from hurt. When one sees themselves for who they are and decides to save the other party from what could befall them, it is one way of being kind.
You may have cut someone off, or maybe even a victim of the process; that you were cut off. Regardless of how you have experienced it, it happens from time to time and life has to go on. After all, it is motivated by the aim of making life less stressful, and easier to live.
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