Though love has no specific formula, one thing to rule out is the exploitation one may experience in the process. They say love is blind. These days, a specific partner is blind, and the other one takes whatever they want. From the recent case of Kenyan content creator, Nairofey, women need to learn a thing or two from the whole ordeal.
Nairofey and Yerofian got married in August 2022. Since then to date, they have lived a life that many out here were left admiring and wishing it was them. A case in point is a Twitter user by the name @shiromiringu who had opened her heart about her admiration for the two.
kuna bhaddie mwingine pale gram anaitwa Nairofey analive vipoa..Mungu ukinibariki nibariki na mwanaume mgenerous kama huyo wake
The two were couple goals to many until recently when the two broke up and washed their dirty linen in public. The drama started when the two unfollowed each other on social media. This was followed by each sending cryptic messages that hinted that they were not on good terms, and were headed for a breakup.
Nairofey claimed that the man she loved had lied and that he worked with the UN in Russia, which is not the case. Also, what she thought was love was a trick; the man seemed to be after her potential and money as he manipulated her into signing a prenup. The prenup directs that Yeforian takes half the income Nairofery makes from her brand even after separation. She claimed that Yerofian had also accessed her Gmail account and had taken over her YouTube account.
One specific thing that caused the story to trend on the internet was when Nairofery mentioned that she was funding her lavish lifestyle while making people believe that it was her man who was spoiling her.
From this ordeal, women can take a few things home.
1. A prenup is more serious than it may look
It does not matter how much a woman may love her man, but some things are too serious about being done anyhow. Something like a prep requires one to think things through thoroughly. This may include having the insights of parents, friends, and even a lawyer. This will ensure that there is no room for manipulation.
2. Covering up for him may insinuate that the relationship is one-sided
Above all, relationships, where a woman needs to create an impression that the man is romantic and very caring may indicate that the man is not into it all. It may also be an insinuation that the woman is the only one who wants it to work on such a level. In such an instance, the question is, why is he still there? What does he want?
After following up on the story on social media, there were other lessons that one can take home too.
3. Financial favours too soon into the relationship may be a red flag
Everyone may need financial help from time to time. However, when he asks these financial favours too soon into the relationship and from time to time, then one may need to pause and ask questions. This is because some men, like this tweet by @mwendesusu states, only aim at a woman’s money and whatever they can get.
You’ve known a man for one week and he already loves you? How? One month in and he wants to move into your house? How? You’ve been on a few dates and the guy wants to borrow your car? Why? Three months in and he needs you take a loan for him? Eh? Con man. Run.
4. Moving in may not be for genuine reasons
As your door is open for this man you love, for him, it might be a move that masks an ill intention. When the topic of moving in occurs, one may need to ask herself questions to ensure that it all makes sense. @mwendesusu also talked about how some men are in the business of house-hopping from one woman’s house to the next.
“Not shocked by that Nairofey story. Many babes are out here pretending their men are doing things that they’re actually doing for themselves. Buying engagement rings, paying vacays, paying rent, buying a car all while saying it’s the man while Mr Man is busy cheating &scamming”
5. Cons utilize intimate relationships these days
Rather than try to trick you into a business deal and then disappear with your money, cons have become wiser. They use the most unexpected way to get money from a woman.
A few days after “falling in love”, he may cunningly manipulate the woman into taking a loan for him or subtly start taking her car as his. You need to watch out for the red flags that he is using you. Mwende gave a tip for women who are doing well finally in this tweet. She said.
Actually the biggest cons that can catch women is in relationships. And Nairobi imejaa such cons. If you’re a woman who is even moderately financially secure, be very careful. Kuna wanaume siku hizi looking to live off of women. And they really know how to play at love but ni con.
Relationships are dynamic. However, any intimate relationship ought to bring the love and care that an individual needs. This love and care need not be at the expense of a woman’s money. Plus, what happened to the times when men provided for and protected their women?
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