What would you do if your boyfriend told you he can’t go down on you? Would you dump him? I guess most people would end the relationship while others don’t care about it. Then, there’s us who try to be the perfect girlfriend hoping the man will change his mind. However, the problem is most people don’t ever change and you’ll end up wasting your time trying to change them. I thought I was an understanding and patient girlfriend so I decided to go along with a lot of things in my previous relationship. It was one of my biggest regrets.
Mark was what I would call a cool guy. He was a lady’s man and got a lot of attention from them. He also liked being around women and always had all eyes on him when he was around. One day, he asked me out and of course, I said yes. I didn’t expect anything to come out of the date. Honestly, I just wanted to brag to the girls the next day that I went on a date with Mark. However, we got along so well and he kept asking me out.
We were soon the It couple. Everyone knew about our relationship and suddenly I went from being in the background to being the popular girl. I liked it so much that I let a lot of things slide. Mark wasn’t exactly the kind of guy I wanted. He was extremely narcissistic and self-centred. The minute I agreed to date him I started to notice his true colours.
Our sex life was the worst part of our relationship. We were hardly intimate and when we were, he refused to go down on me completely.
“I can’t go down on a girl. It’s not my thing.” He’d say every time I asked him.
Surprisingly, our relationship lasted for more than a month. In fact, we dated for almost a year. That meant that no man had gone down on me for almost a year and I wasn’t getting sexually or emotionally satisfied in my relationship. The only thing I got from it was the popularity and that was getting boring.
I would hang out with his friends from time to time when I visited him at his place so I developed a friendship with some of them. In particular, I got very close to his best friend, David. David was the complete opposite of Mark. Sometimes I wondered how they became friends in the first place.
“Mark is social. He talks to everyone and we bonded over time.” He explained it to me.
At some point, I became closer to David than I was to Mark. I found myself looking forward to seeing David and we’d spend the whole time talking to each other. Mark didn’t seem to care that I was giving his friend more attention than him. I think he believed that I couldn’t cheat on him since he was more good-looking than most guys.
However, after nearly one year of bad sex with a guy who wouldn’t go down on me, I was thirsty for some good loving. David started making a move on me and I played along. We flirted a lot on the phone and slowly, we started flirting in person too. The flirting soon progressed to physical touch. He would massage my shoulders and I would feel my body shake with every touch. I don’t think Mark had ever massaged me – not even once.
“Come over to my place. I want to cook you something.” He said to me over the phone.
After weeks of teasing and flirting with me, I knew exactly what he meant and I was ready for it. I wore a sexy short dress that was easy to remove and made my way to his place. We didn’t waste any time. The sexual tension between us had been building up and it was almost exploding. After that day, we hooked up almost every day. David was a good lover and most importantly, he went down on me,
We hooked up for months before Mark noticed anything. In fact, I was the one who told him since I didn’t want to keep sleeping with him anymore.
“I’m cheating on you,” I said bluntly.
He stared at me in disbelief but didn’t say anything.
“Don’t you want to know who it was with?”
That got his attention since it had to be someone he knew.
“Who was it with?”
“My best friend?”
“Yeah. He knows how to treat a woman and he loves going down on me. By the way, he told me he slept with your ex too.”
Mark was speechless. For once, I saw a human side of him. He was no longer cool, calm and collected. He was angry and I could see it.
“Was it because I don’t go down on you or what?”
“Yes and many other things.”
“So, you cheated on me because I don’t go down on you. Then you did it with my best friend. How petty is that?”
“No, Mark. Petty is refusing to go down on someone you’re in a relationship with for a whole year.”
After he left, I called David to let him know what had happened and he didn’t seem to mind it. I realized that most of Mark’s friends didn’t like him as much as he thought. A part of me felt bad for him but the other part could care less. He was a narcissist and deserved everything that had happened to him.
We never spoke again after that day but David and I still keep in touch. He tried to salvage his friendship with Mark but eventually, he had to cut him off from his life since he constantly reminded him that he had slept with two of his girlfriends. From what I heard, he’s still narcissistic and none of his relationships last for more than three months. It’s so unfortunate for such a good-looking guy.
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