Everyone wants to be loved. Sometimes in the quest of finding love, we find ourselves in the wrong relationships. There are times that we look back at our exes and we can now see why it didn’t work out but it’s difficult to see these things while dating. However, there are always signs that you are dating the wrong person. Identifying a wrong partner is hard because it requires us to be honest with ourselves. It is possible to love someone and yet know that they are wrong for you. Here are signs that you are dating the wrong person.
You’re constantly arguing or fighting
It is normal for couples to fight but excessive fighting could be a sign that you are dating the wrong person. In a healthy relationship, partners work through the arguments. When dating the wrong person arguments keep coming up over many things. If you are fighting over everything then it could be a sign that you are dating the wrong person because you have different ideas on many things. The other person is also not willing to accommodate your views which results in constant fighting.
You don’t turn to your partner in times of trouble
Experts say that the first person that one should think of when something happens, good or bad should be your partner. If you don’t feel comfortable enough to involve your partner when such things happen then there’s a problem. It could be that you are in trouble but you opt to call other people to help you out. If you don’t feel that level of trust and intimacy to share such moments with your partner then they are probably wrong for you.
If your friends do not like your partner
Often your friends will not like your partner. Sometimes it is difficult because they feel no one is good enough for you. However, if most of your friends do not like your partner then there is a problem somewhere. If your partner and friends cannot hang out in peace then you should re-evaluate your relationship.
You often think of breaking up with them
Most times you already know that you are dating the wrong person. If you truly had an honest conversation with yourself then you would identify the red flags and act on them. As a result of such feelings, you constantly find yourself thinking of breaking up with them but ending a relationship is easier said than done. If you realize that you often think about ending things with your partner then that’s a sign that you are dating the wrong person.
They don’t really listen to you
Many relationships lack balance. One person holds more than the other one. If you do not feel like your partner listens to you and acts accordingly then you are with the wrong person. Listening to your partner is evident in many ways. If a person listens to you then they avoid things that annoy you. They also communicate with you in a way that shows that they understand you. Listening to you also shows in things like choices of activities together or gifts. If you feel that your partner imposes their ideas on you without considering what you think then you are probably dating the wrong person.
You avoid them
If you find yourself avoiding your partner then they’re probably wrong for you. In a healthy relationship, you look forward to seeing the other person. If you are in a situation where spending time with them is no longer something that excites you then there is a problem.
Your family does not like them
This is closely related to your friends not liking your partner. Unless there’s an extreme case such as your family being racist or something in these lines, if they don’t like your partner then it’s a red flag. Your family has known you for a long time and they can probably see things that you cannot. Analyze why your family does not like your partner because it is probably from a point of genuine concern.
You pretend around them
Sometimes you like someone so much that you act differently around them. You are not yourself around them. The version of you that your friends know of you is totally different from you are with your partner. If you find yourself struggling to be a certain way with your partner then you are probably dating the wrong person.
You don’t feel valued by them
If your partner makes you feel small then they are wrong for you. If they belittle your ideas and thoughts then walk away. They can make you feel small by degrading your job, negatively comments on your weight or looks as well as ignoring your ideas. If you feel ‘small’ in your relationship then you are dating the wrong person.
Maureen Rita is a writer, creative and poet who focuses on issues that affect women, relationships and wellness. I’m constantly exploring the complexities of human experiences and I often challenge societal norms. I also love discovering African music, films, and art. You can
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