Stacey has been my girlfriend since the first year at the university. We’ve had our share of ups and downs but somehow, our love endured it all. She’s the perfect girlfriend and at times, I feel like she deserves someone better than me. To be completely honest, she can also get any man she wanted. Yet, she settled with me – the man who can’t even give her a decent Valentine’s gift.
She comes from a wealthy family and is used to expensive gifts. Throughout our 5-year relationship, the best thing I got her was a puppy she named “Ruby”. Don’t get me wrong, I would give her the world if I could but I always struggle to keep up with her expensive lifestyle.
“Babe, are we going to Maasai Mara for Valentine’s?” she asked dropping a not-so-subtle hint of what she expected me to do on Valentine’s.
“I can’t promise that babe. I’m swamped at work. I don’t even know if I can take you on a date that day.” I lied.
The truth is, I met another girl a few months ago who just makes me feel complete. She is simple and I felt like we had more in common than I had with Stacey. Melissa is in her final year at college, studying to become an air hostess. She is gorgeous but doesn’t make a fuss about it. Since I don’t drive, she is okay with getting an Uber and occasionally boarding a bus to meet up with me.
We have genuinely connected and I want to take things to the next level with her. The only problem was that I am in another relationship and my girlfriend doesn’t take rejection very well. Once, I tried to break up with her after a huge argument, she called her father and said I physically abused her. What followed after that was a long night in a police cell. Even after she confessed it was all a lie, her father still let me spend the night in the cell. I learned where I stood with that family from that day.
Back to Melissa. She’s not just beauty. She’s brains too. Apart from going to college, she runs her own online shop on Instagram selling perfumes and lotions so she barely has time to start petty arguments. Plus, the few friends who met her say we make a cute couple and she gets along with them.
Melissa and Stacey are like day and night – the complete opposite of each other. While one sees me as a failure, the other praises me for how tirelessly I work. When one says taking her to Java was a cheap date, the other would gladly eat with me at a kibanda. Still, this didn’t change the fact that I am in a relationship with the wrong girl.
One day, I let Melissa know what was going on after one of my friends nearly spilled the beans. I figured it was better if she knew rather than finding out from someone else.
“Hun, I have something to tell you.” I started, a bit shaky. “I need you to understand why I kept it from you but if you don’t, I won’t hold it against you.”
She knew what was coming from the look on her face but stayed calm.
“I have a girlfriend,” I said and paused to gather my thoughts and get her reaction. She simply stared at me without flinching. “We’ve been in a relationship for almost 5 years but to be honest, this past few months have been ten times better than all those years combined,” I explained hoping she understood and didn’t change her mind about me.
“Why are you telling me this now?” she asked.
I didn’t expect that question but I was glad she didn’t break up with me.
“Because I think you deserve to know. And I’m sorry I didn’t tell you earlier.” I saw her eyes light up after that apology. “I also had plans to take you on a proper Valentine’s date but things aren’t going to plan. Stacey insists that I must take her out – that her friends will make fun of her if she doesn’t spend Valentine’s with me. She’s even threatening to come and spend the day with me at the office. I really want to take you out, though.”
Melissa sat quietly and said nothing so we sat there in silence. She scrolled through her phone and for the first time, I saw the long list of guys in her inboxes trying to get her attention. If I didn’t know how lucky I was, that was a strong reminder of that. She made a phone call to one of her friends and asked her what she should do – all while I sat there with my tail in between my thighs.
“My friend says you’re a good guy and you deserve a second chance.” She said after hanging up.
“I’ll do anything.”
“I want you to take me on that Valentine’s date. If you don’t, don’t bother calling me.”
Her firm words let me know she wasn’t bluffing but I still had the dilemma of my life. How can I escape from Stacey without raising an alarm? If Melissa taught me anything, it’s thinking critically about things. I knew I couldn’t get rid of Stacey on Valentine’s without her using every energy in her body to stalk me.
For now, I’ve resolved to have lunch with Stacey then spoil Melissa with a lavish dinner. Hopefully, the two girls will not find out as I sort out this mess I created. However, I’m certain that I want to spend my life with Melissa and I’ll do anything to make that happen.
The singlehood series is a collection of real-life stories and opinions from different people. It looks at the current world of dating around the world and the experiences that people have gone through.