People think that a situationship is harmless. After all, it mostly lasts for a couple of months and there’s no pressure since both parties are after the same thing – casual sex. However, a situationship can get messy very quickly, especially when someone or both of you start catching feelings. There’s no guarantee that the person you’re in a situationship won’t catch feelings for you and want something more. Regardless, everyone needs to experience a situationship at least once in their life because it can be life-changing.
I was no stranger to situationships. I have been in a number of them but it’s the last one that changed my life and made me swear never to try casual dating again. Sarah was my best friend. We met on Tinder back in the day but after going on several dates, we both realized that we weren’t compatible and we dated other people. I even introduced her to one of my friends and they started dating.
Though we had been friends, it was when she started dating my friend that I really got to know Sarah. She would call me regularly to ask about my friend, the things he liked, how to impress him and whatnot. I was more than happy to help since I wanted to see two of my friends happy and in love. Who knew my involvement would be the cause of their breakup?
“Bro, what’s going on between you and Sarah?” My friend asked.
“Nothing. We’re just friends.”
“Why does she always talk about you? Victor did this. Victor bought that. I’m tired of hearing your name.”
“I didn’t even know that was going on.”
“She’s always mentioning the things you do. I need you to stop talking to her.”
“That’s going to be hard since we were friends before you started dating but I will take a step back.”
It didn’t take long before they broke up after that conversation. Sarah showed up at my place in the middle of the night, drunk out of her wits and crying hysterically.
“He broke up with me.” She said.
I welcomed her, gave her a change of clothes and we continued drinking until 5 am. When we finally got tired, I offered to sleep on the couch so she could sleep in my bed since I only had one bedroom.
“I can’t let you sleep on the couch. We can share the bed.” She said.
I happily agreed and followed her to the bedroom as I admired her curvy body in my oversized promotional T-shirt. When we got in bed, Sarah blacked out immediately. Being the gentleman I was, I didn’t try to wake her up. I was also very sleepy and fell asleep immediately after her.
When I woke up, I prepared breakfast and waited for her to wake up. An hour later, she emerged from the bedroom looking puzzled.
“How did I get here?” She asked
“You came with an Uber last night.”
“I hope I wasn’t a bother.”
“No, we just drank and slept.”
“Oh. Did we…?” She asked worriedly.
“We didn’t.”
After having breakfast, I got her an Uber and she headed home to freshen up. We stayed in touch as I checked on her regularly to make sure she was handling the breakup well. The following weekend, I took her on a date to get her mind off things and that was the beginning of our situationship.
We went back to my place, got drunk and finally hooked up. It was honestly, one of the best nights of my life. I had waited for years to sleep with her and it didn’t disappoint. The following day, Sarah woke up and left immediately after. She barely said anything to me other than asking me to call her an Uber.
It became a habit every weekend. She would come over and we’d get drunk and sleep together. For a moment, things were going great. We would hook up and then go for lunch as if nothing happened. I felt like the king of the world until Sarah’s ex burst that bubble.
“How is Sarah doing?” He asked.
“She’s good.”
“She told me she was thinking of moving out.”
“You guys are still talking?” I asked.
“Yeah, we talk every now and then.”
“She didn’t tell me about that.”
When I went back home, I confronted Sarah about talking to her ex. I didn’t want to get caught up in a love triangle and it seemed like the two of them were getting friendly again. Additionally, I couldn’t help but feel a bit jealous especially since I had helped her get over the breakup. I didn’t expect that she would ever talk to him.
“Why didn’t you tell me you were talking to your ex again?” I asked.
“He reached out to me a few weeks ago and we started talking.”
“Does he know about us?”
“No.”
“So, are you guys getting back together?”
“No, we’re not. He was just checking up on me.”
Sarah was always honest with me so I believed her when she said she wasn’t getting back together with him. We continued hooking up though I noticed that she was distancing herself from me. I thought it was because she was busy with the moving process so I offered to help her and that was when I found out the truth.
“Can I come and help you move?” I asked.
“Sure, the movers are coming tomorrow. You can come early and help me pack the remaining things.”
I was there by 9 am with breakfast from Java. As we packed, the movers called her informing her that they were on their way.
“Where did you say you’re going?” The mover asked.
“Karen.” She answered.
After I heard where she was going, it finally hit me what was going on. She was moving in with my friend. He lived in Karen and there was no other reason she would move there except that they were moving in together.
I pretended like I didn’t connect the dots and continued helping her pack. Before the movers arrived, I made up an excuse and then left. A few days passed by and I didn’t hear from Sarah so I decided to call her. However, she didn’t pick up. She called me back later in the day and told me that she could no longer have a situationship with me.
I felt like I had lost a part of me since she was not just a random girl, she was one of my closest friends. To make matters worse, I had lost her to my friend whom I warned her about. I thought their relationship wouldn’t last long and she would come back to me. However, that never happened. I tried calling and texting her to get her attention but she blocked me.
That whole experience put me in a bad mental space. I’ve never been able to get into another relationship hoping that someday, they would break up. Meanwhile, Sarah is still with my friend and things look like they’re getting serious.
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