Potentash
  • Relationships
    • The Singlehood Series
    • Dating
    • Sex
    • Parenting
  • Lifestyle
    • Home
    • Food + Beverage
    • Fashion
    • Interviews
  • Stories
    • The Singlehood Series
    • Fiction
    • Poetry
  • Skin + Beauty
    • Skin
      • Skincare
    • Hair
      • Haircare
  • Wellness
    • Physical Health
    • Emotional Wellness
    • Mental Wellness
    • Social Wellness
    • Spiritual Wellness
  • Business
    • Business Finance
    • Personal Finance
    • Entrepreneurship
    • Investments
    • Personal Investments
  • Entertainment
    • Internet
    • Events
    • Music
    • Books
No Result
View All Result
  • Login
Potentash
  • Relationships
    • The Singlehood Series
    • Dating
    • Sex
    • Parenting
  • Lifestyle
    • Home
    • Food + Beverage
    • Fashion
    • Interviews
  • Stories
    • The Singlehood Series
    • Fiction
    • Poetry
  • Skin + Beauty
    • Skin
      • Skincare
    • Hair
      • Haircare
  • Wellness
    • Physical Health
    • Emotional Wellness
    • Mental Wellness
    • Social Wellness
    • Spiritual Wellness
  • Business
    • Business Finance
    • Personal Finance
    • Entrepreneurship
    • Investments
    • Personal Investments
  • Entertainment
    • Internet
    • Events
    • Music
    • Books
No Result
View All Result
  • Login
Potentash
No Result
View All Result
Man talking to ageing parents

Man talking to ageing parents Image from https://bit.ly/3MRBArx

How Your Parents’ Relationship May Be Affecting Yours

Nereah Obimbo by Nereah Obimbo
13 October 2023
in Relationships
Reading Time: 4 mins read
5 1
0
7
SHARES
37
VIEWS
FacebookTwitterWhatsApp

Human beings learn by observing and imitating, and parents are often your first role models. What you see them do helps you develop expectations about relationships and sets the standard for so much about your perception of life. If you think their relationship was good, you could easily have rose-coloured glasses regarding relationships. If you think their relationship is bad or unhealthy, you could find yourself fearful of or altogether opposed to relationships. Here are some ways your parents’ relationship can affect yours.

How you deal with emotions and conflict

Your parents are the first people who show you how to express emotions and affection. Were your parents openly affectionate with things like touching and kissing? If they were, that is likely normal for you, if they weren’t you may find displays of affection awkward in your relationship. How did they handle emotions like anger? If your parents were in a high-conflict marriage, you could find yourself either conflict-averse or lacking the necessary de-escalation skills.

How you communicate

Good communication is the cornerstone of any relationship. The problem is communication skills are not natural or innate, and parents are not immune from being poor communicators. If your parents modelled good communication skills, you can easily carry this to the rest of your relationships, and the same holds if they modelled poor communication skills.

Your standards for a partner

People whose parents had a good relationship are likely to look for partners who match what was modelled for them. For people whose parents had a bad relationship, it could go either way. They could settle for what’s familiar to them, which is a bad partner, or they could purposefully look for a partner who is the opposite of what they saw modelled for them. 

Whether you want a relationship at all

Whether you want a relationship or not can be linked to the type of relationship your parents had. For people whose parents had a good relationship, they may eagerly look forward to having their own relationship. People whose parents had an unhealthy relationship may be ambivalent to relationships or they may greatly desire one with the hope that they’ll do better. 

Your willingness to accept abusive behaviour

Being exposed to abusive behaviour as a child has a significant impact on your future relationships. One study found that children who were exposed to domestic violence are more likely to be victims of domestic violence than adults. Your willingness to accept abusive behaviour is linked in part to whether or not you deal with such childhood trauma. An abusive home environment normalizes abusive behaviour, making it familiar to you, so it’s no hardship for you to put up with it from other people.

How much independence do you crave

If you grew up with a parent who was wholly dependent on the other parent, you may guard your independence fiercely. If your parents on the other hand barely had any involvement in each other’s lives, you may desire someone to share your life with. Conversely, if they were too clingy with each other, you may crave independence even in the relationship.

How trusting you are

The nature of your parent’s relationship affects how trusting you are in your relationships. If their relationship is unhealthy with incidents like unfaithfulness and abuse, you are unlikely to be open and trusting. If their relationship was healthy, you could be more open to trusting your partner.

 Begin by openly and vulnerably examining your parents’ relationship. Think about how it may have affected you not just in your romantic relationships but also in others, like friendships too. Once you identify the commonalities, it’s time to do the work. 

All the best.

 Relationships: 9 Major Signs That Your Partner Doesnt Love You Anymore

She Was Tired Of Being A Single Parent – One Day Things Boiled Over And She Told Off Her Husband 

Relationships: 7 Tips For Managing Relationship Conflicts

Relationships: Ways To Prepare For Couples Counselling

6 Co-Parenting Tips For When Your Ex Is Toxic

Share3Tweet2SendSharePin1
Previous Post

The Singlehood Series: She Meant The World To Me Until She Betrayed Me And Lied To Me

Next Post

Content Creation: Key Things I Consider When Organizing A Photo Shoot

Nereah Obimbo

Nereah Obimbo

Writer. Youtuber. Filmmaker. Abolitionist. Pessimism of the intellect, optimism of the will.

Next Post
Content Creation: Key Things I Consider When Organizing A Photo Shoot

Content Creation: Key Things I Consider When Organizing A Photo Shoot

Please login to join discussion

Recommended

The Singlehood Series: She Was Growing In Her Career But He Belittled Her Job And Salary 

The Singlehood Series: She Was Growing In Her Career But He Belittled Her Job And Salary 

2 July 2023
281

Health: Superfoods Found In Every Market

5 February 2018
206

Popular Stories

  • Book Review: Things I Will Tell My Daughter By Joan Thatiah

    652 shares
    Share 261 Tweet 163
  • Relationships And A Tolerable Level Of Permanent Unhappiness

    1559 shares
    Share 622 Tweet 389
  • Musician Crystal Asige Lost Her Sight In Her Early 20s But She Has Not Let That Stop Her From Pursuing Her Dreams

    2304 shares
    Share 922 Tweet 576
  • The 13 Best Oils For 4C Hair

    8 shares
    Share 3 Tweet 2
  • Travel: Everything You Need To Know About The Nairobi Commuter Train Schedule

    7736 shares
    Share 3094 Tweet 1934

Potentash Blog

Potentash is an award-winning lifestyle blog. We publish lifestyle content that intersects with health, women, beauty, travel, business, relationships, finances and entertainment.

Explore

  • The Singlehood Series
  • From Stairs To Ramps
  • Man Around Nairobi
  • Pearls And Heels
  • Personal Finance
  • Food + Beverage
  • Editor’s Pick
  • Reviews

Get the Potentash Newsletter

  • Newsletter Archive
  • Subscribe
  • Frequently Asked Questions
  • Privacy Policy
  • Contact Us

Copyright © 2023. Potentash, In Partnership with Decima

Welcome Back!

Sign In with Linked In
OR

Login to your account below

Forgotten Password?

Retrieve your password

Please enter your username or email address to reset your password.

Log In
  • Login
No Result
View All Result
  • Relationships
    • The Singlehood Series
    • Dating
    • Sex
    • Parenting
  • Lifestyle
    • Home
    • Food + Beverage
    • Fashion
    • Interviews
  • Stories
    • The Singlehood Series
    • Fiction
    • Poetry
  • Skin + Beauty
    • Skin
      • Skincare
    • Hair
      • Haircare
  • Wellness
    • Physical Health
    • Emotional Wellness
    • Mental Wellness
    • Social Wellness
    • Spiritual Wellness
  • Business
    • Business Finance
    • Personal Finance
    • Entrepreneurship
    • Investments
    • Personal Investments
  • Entertainment
    • Internet
    • Events
    • Music
    • Books

Copyright © 2023. Potentash, In Partnership with Decima