In an African home, family is always considered important, although not everybody uses affection to show it. However, it is evident in how we show up for each other in different situations.
If you ever find yourself arrested or in a serious fix, you can be assured that your family members will come through for you. In most family settings, actions are used to show affection.
We also show the importance of family through gatherings; if you come from a big family like me, you are bound to attend all sorts of gatherings—big holiday celebrations, weddings, cultural celebrations etc. We always find a reason to have a gathering, and even when there is no reason, we do it anyway.
These gatherings help us to catch up, reminisce about old days, discuss business opportunities, and most importantly, find out who is on the path to marriage. If there is a gathering that makes most African families happy, it is a wedding.
As Africans, we also consider other things important, one of them being land. In the traditional days, land was considered a sign of wealth and was mainly passed down from father to son. As the years went by, the rules slightly changed. Today, parents decide who they would wish to inherit their land once they pass on. This information is indicated on a piece of paper, and that paper can potentially destroy families.
The problem usually arises when there are many children or more sons than daughters in a family. It also causes problems during funerals, especially if the deceased had a secret affair that nobody knew about. Her Husband’S Death Revealed Another Side Of Him
A man by the username @Vikemu_Ke posted a question on Twitter asking people if they usually attend family gatherings or if land issues affected their families.
Many Kenyans interacted with the tweet, giving their own family experiences. Here are a few interesting responses.
There is nothing like family when it comes to land. You would rather save and buy your own for the sake of peace.
Some people learned the wrong lesson from Kabi Wa Jesus’s story.
Marriage is another serious topic for African families. If people don’t like whoever you marry, you have to deal with gossip all through.
Grandparents hold the family together. When they pass on, things don’t seem the same anymore.
It turns out competition isn’t only at the workplace or in friendships. Such cases become even worse when people carry grudges from their childhood.
A piece of paper can destroy families. Greediness can drive a father to beat his child because of his mother’s will? Tragic!
Stories like this are the reason we need the ” Wueh” emoji.
Inheritance can make people go crazy and take up weapons against their family members.
Would it be Christmas if a goat is not slaughtered?
There’s always that one person who holds the family together. Once they pass on, you hope the gatherings will continue to cherish their memory.
Sometimes there is somebody who is alienating others because of the decisions they have made about land. Is land worth losing your family’s respect?
When it comes to land, there’s nothing like small or large. As long as you can build some form of structure, it is worth fighting for.
Guess not every family enjoys gatherings. If it’s not a wedding or funeral, what’s the point of the meeting? So sad!
It must be very nice!
In the past, you weren’t allowed to sell land that belonged to your family. It was against the customs set, and people took them seriously.
Generational curses and karma are in the same WhatsApp group. You may think they don’t happen until you can’t explain some incidences that happen to you or someone else.
Do you still attend family gatherings or you have also experienced land issues?
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