Let’s start this conversation with what goes on in a woman’s mind when she decides to go out dancing or otherwise party the night away. Apart from having fun, relaxing or meeting new people she also looks forward to enjoying a free space away from unwanted behaviour which unfortunately is rampant in nightclubs.
The non-consensual grinding, groping, and grabbing which makes women opt to move/dance in groups is a clear indication that most clubs cannot be termed in the least bit, as safe zones.
Sad is that the groping and grabbing culture is somehow tolerated and people who would rather not suffer through it will tend to avoid nightclubs and bars altogether. After all, what is a nightclub if not a hot spot for sexual behaviour? This connotation further adds to the reasoning that harassment is okay, hence why some women become devoiced when they encounter this g3 (grinding, groping, grabbing) culture.
We cannot forget the distress, discomfort and disenfranchisement that accompanies these norms of nightclub sexual behaviour. On the other hand, even though some men might share this same distress, it is rare that they would open up about it. Otherwise, they risk being viewed as unmanly especially if the g3 behaviour was initiated by an attractive woman. Wouldn’t many wonder what the fuss is about for an innocent pass made by a woman? What harm can the weak gender cause?
Even though this mentality is wrong and further yields a disparity between genders, (due to double standards), research indicates that both genders are more accepting of the g3 behaviour if the perpetrator is a woman. Nonetheless, men’s nightlife behaviour is still believed to cause more harm.
Case in point women gets assaulted by men in far greater numbers than men get sexually assaulted by women.
From the staff including the security officers, sound mixers, Djs, MCs and ushers to access Strictly Silk one has to be a woman.
Conceived by Njoki Ngumi, Njeri Gatungo and Akati Khasiani, all members of The Nest Collective, Strictly Silk becomes a game-changer as it protects women against unwanted experiences common in mixed clubs.
I like this thing. This shows and tells us(men) that we shouldn’t think that every lady we see into night clubs is for after men, some are there for their enjoyment. Good step
Kenyan men: argghggh these lesbianics partying without us. AGHH This is not the Nairobbery I know and lurrrrrv. We didn’t defeat colonialism to not have the opportunity to exploit and harass our womenzzzzz. AHHH THESE LESBIANICS pic.twitter.com/okPnvGLq1d
Ms Ngumi dispels this claim by affirming that it is a space for all regardless of sexuality. Participants who appreciated the conception of the rave also highlighted that it is a place where women can dance the night away without judgement. Whether you’re in a hijab or a dress Strictly Silk doesn’t carry connotations of how a night outfit should look like.
Strictly Silk, ni klabu ya muziki iliyopo jijini Nairobi, Kenya maalum kwa ajili ya wanawake pekee, ambapo wahudumu, DJs, walinzi, washereheshaji ni wanawake. Klabu hiyo ya usiku ilianzishwa kuepuka usumbufu wa wanaume ambao wanawake walidai kuupata kwenye klabu mchanganyiko. pic.twitter.com/kDlJX8A35E
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