Recently on Twitter, a man shared a story about a cab ride he’d taken. He’d used one of the apps to get a ride and I think it was late at night and the location was one those places that make you a little nervous. When they got to his destination, the cab driver before he left told him how he’d been scared about picking up a guy at that hour at that location. Every week, every other day women go online and talk about the hypervigilance, nervousness, and underlying fear that’s always present in their interactions with men and they’re always told they’re overreacting because #NotAllMen. Yet here, we have a man confessing that even men are afraid of men. Here are some other great reasons why women continue to say #YesAllMen.
I ubered at 4AM on Friday morning, I get in the back and the driver asks me to sit at the front. I do that & when he dropped me off he confessed that he was crazy scared of picking me up at that time combined with where he was picking me from.
Men are scared of men too. https://t.co/Fliz5a2xeX
— Sokhulu (@BonganiNtuli) March 26, 2023
If you go down this thread of men admitting to being scared of other men, you'll find that not a single man chimes in with a "not all men" disclaimer, but when women express their legitimate fear of men, they get berated. https://t.co/UJ2HAaocsx
— Whitney (@WhitneyPrins) March 27, 2023
The gun analogy
The key lesson people handling firearms are to keep in mind at all times whether beginner or expert is “treat all guns like they’re loaded.” You’re supposed careful because you don’t know one way or another if the gun is loaded and can be used to cause harm. So you act at all times like it’s loaded to keep yourself and everyone safe from any accidents or incidents. In the same way, women have no way of knowing whether or not a man is a loaded gun. There’s no way to tell by looking. Even men can’t tell by looking that’s why that cab driver was so nervous all through the ride. This guy on TikTok explains it perfectly.
@mytherapistlife #duet with @cyzeyesboudoir Standing ovation 👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽 #yesallmen #maleallyship
Men are coming over
Most women have experienced this one, some male relatives or friends are coming over and someone turns to you and says “You need to change.” They are always full of reasons and excuses, ‘oh you know how men are’, ‘Oh men are visual’, ‘I was once a teenage boy’, ‘It’s not you I don’t trust it’s him’. Either way, they insist you need to adjust your behaviour around all those men to be safe. This woman explains it perfectly.
@_cal_cifer Reply to @erin.go.braghless It’s only ok when they say it obviously. #feminism #toxicmasculinity #believesurvivors #yesallmen
@_cal_cifer Reply to @jadzia.stax Which is it? #whyaremen #toxicmasculinity #fragilemasculinity #girlpower #notallmenbutenough #yesallmen
ALL Men benefit from patriarchy and violence
Men are the biggest victims of other’s men’s violence, and they suffer the negative effects of patriarchy. Oh, but they benefit too. They benefit greatly from societal discrimination and exploitation of women. This tweet by @OmogeDami encapsulates it perfectly: ALL men benefit from the actions of violent men. It keeps women in check. It allows men to perform the barest minimum and still feel good about themselves. The existence of violent men grants “good” men awards for basic decency.
Found it! This is from @onosowobo pic.twitter.com/01mYRd08bc
— Adeninsola (@eyilanke) March 29, 2023
Men are the leading cause of premature death for women worldwide. Worldwide. Until that’s no longer the case, women will continue to be vigilant and distrustful of men as a unit. Every man until otherwise proven could cause you harm and you have to keep that in mind in an attempt to keep yourself safe. That’s why we continue to say #YesAllMen
Yes all men. Your bhai. Your dad. Your dada. Your Nana. Your SON.
Instead of being offended at them being potentially problematic focus on whether they are willing to relearn their ways or not.
If not: doubt their love. Life is hell for us and if they think it’s okay-yikes. https://t.co/fpf7W69T66— FF (@witchdemigodjay) March 31, 2023
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