There is an audio doing the rounds of a guy named Mollis (Morris) having sex with a girl. The girl at some point tells the guy to stop and he says she should stop being stupid. She keeps telling him she surrenders and he keeps going at it. If you listen to it twice I didn’t have the stomach for it she says at the beginning you are raping me(unanirape) She clearly says something about rape at the beginning. I can’t believe that people found this funny. She told him to stop and he refused many times.
3 things disturb me. One that the guy continues going about his business even though she tells him to stop. He doesn’t. He doesn’t care about her feelings at all. He just keeps going. I don’t know who recorded the audio; we had a debate about that. Was it him or did she tape him so that she could use it as evidence? Whichever way it does not matter. What people don’t seem to realize is that at the point where she says no it stops being consensual sex and becomes rape. It seems that the guy doesn’t get it and also many of the people laughing and circulating it don’t get it either. A woman or a man has a right to change their mind about having sex and the other person should respect that.
My friend Blogger Daniel Ominde says it well in this post
I am really angry that nobody is actually seeing this as sexual abuse – I get it, the whole thing might have started as a consensual encounter but If I heard right the lady in the clip did say STOP – not once, not twice – in fact at some point her saying “Mollis (Maurice) Stop, I sulender (I surrender)” almost becomes like a song in the entire clip.
Does a woman have the right to say STOP in the middle of sex?
When a woman says STOP does it mean “I am having fun continue?”
When does consensual sex turn into sexual abuse?
Second I am perturbed by the guys who made jokes about it and even worse made it sound like Morris was a hero for keeping on about it. They even made memes about it. I know some guys who after we had a discussion about it on one of my whatsapp groups who realized that she was having sex against her consent. They went to their social media pages and pulled down any jokes and stuff they made about it. Maybe this is a discussion we need to have.
What constitutes rape and sexual assault? Because I think guys have blurred lines – remember that controversial song.
Applauding such behaivour only makes other guys who do not know the boundary continue along that road. I am glad that some of my friends realized that this is not a joke and that because the woman was not consenting then it was rape. Many men out there are still big uping Morris for going at it like an energizer bunny.
The last thing is how a brand like Zuku jumped on that story. I don’t know if the person who wrote that update heard the audio or not. If they were just hashtag trolling that is one thing but if the person listened to it and still put up that update that is really sick. Either way it is unacceptable what they did. You can clearly tell that the woman was uncomfortable having sex with the guy even if you didn’t hear the part at the beginning where she says unanirape Morris. That has made me re-evaluate that brand and their brand promise. I say to ZUKU shame, shame on you.
Shame on all the people laughing at this woman’s pain and discomfort. I don’t want to ask you how you would feel if it was your sister. What Morris did was wrong and if you can’t see that then you need to take a look in the mirror and ask yourself some hard questions about the type of person you are.
This article What Many Men don’t Understand About Sexual Assault is a great place to start in finding out what sexual assault is.
